What do I do next?

So, I am 15, and there is a girl I REALLY like. She is a friend of my ex, and I really have not been talking to her, until about two months ago, we started hanging out, and after my ex dumped me (about 10 months ago) I was horribly depressed. She was basically like sunlight in the darkness, she brought me out of my depression and helped me back on my feet. I have asked her out 5 different times. I know that seems excessive, but I well, I was stupid, and I know that. So we went to the mall today, and we had an AMAZING day, I was so happy, and after, when it was time for me to go, I sat her down and poured my heart out, and she said she just doesnt feel the same way about me, and she kissed me on the cheek. I called her when I got home, and told her that I wouldnt let my feelings get in the way of our friendship, but I really have been wondering if that was the right thing to do. I am completely crazy for her, and I don’t know if it is good to be really good friends with someone you like. I don’t want to end our friendship, but I don’t want to keep hurting myself, because every time I see her, all I want to do is hug her and never let go.

Answer #1

Allright… this position sucks…epically… I know I’ve been in the same position in the very recent past…

Unfortunately the reality is that (at this time) its not gonna happen between the two of you, you’ve let her know how you feel and thats all you can do, you can’t force her to have any feelings like that towards you…

so you have two basic options…

One: it’s either dating the girl or nothing…

this sucks because like I said, it's probably not gonna happen (now) so you'd loose that good friendship that you've built up
the plus side is that eventually you'll get over her and hopefully find someone else

Two: stay on the side lines…

again, this sucks, sorry but its true, if you sit there with your feelings it WILL eat away inside of you, and is not healthy...
BUT if you take this method and play your cards right, and be that great guy, the good gentleman, you might convince her and subconsciously change her mind.

one thing for sure though is you do need to lay off, you’ve let her know how you feel and leave it at that… additionally whatever you choose to do it will not be a quick fix or resolution, so be ready for the long run…

just know that everything happens for a reason, whether you realize it now or not

hope I’ve helped! :)

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