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What do I do, I do not want a divorce?

First off, I am 22 years old and have been with my husband for the past seven years, we broke up some while teenagers but were married in 2007. We have a three year old child.

Our biggest issues lie with the fact that he says that I need to change my ways. I will admit at times I may pick at him and we may bicker. I have said things that I do not mean as does he at times. We have been married over two years and it seems like if we have an issue he will go back to his parents house. This has happened a couple times. He says that I need to change my ways. Everytime he leaves I always want him to come home and eventually he will. He left two weeks ago and says that he has picked up the papers to file for divorce & says that he cannot be with me anymore. The thing is I know how much I care for him and how much he cares for me and I just want us to work through this - this time I believe it may be it. Please some tips on how to fix this marriage or what I should do.

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Answer #1

If you don’t want a divorce, I think you guys both need to get serious and have a really deep talk about what’s going on. Why are you guys fighting? What is it that you both feel needs to be changed? How do you think you can do it? Can you make compromises?

To me, it seems like you guys could benefit greatly from trying some marriage counseling. It may be a difficult process, but unless you guys do something, you guys won’t work out. So keep an open mind about it and see if your husband will be willing to try. Let him know you’re serious. Ask for one last chance.

If the marriage counseling doesn’t work and you guys can’t work out your differences, as hard as it may be, it might be time to let each other go. Out of love, you guys should do what would be for the best, even if that means going different ways. Definitely try marriage counseling first, though.

Take care.

Answer #2

Sweetie, you are in a tough situation but to be honest I only know of one way to make a marriage work and that is to put the Lord Jesus first.. I have know idea where you stand on that or where he does but you may want to try to go for a weekend of Marriage encounter or something to that nature, where it is just the two of you. The other thing I can tell you is Rent or buy off ebay or borrow the DVD Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Myer it will help you with the whole working on your own issues. Remember your child needs you both, not one of you at a time but both. I can promis you God can fix anything, Also a good book is Power of a Praying Wife its very tuff to work through but if you can do it you will save your marriage.

Answer #3

Talk to your husband. Calmly and gently tell him you want to talk to him, and talk about how much you care for him. Maybe you should both change your attitude toward each other. Do little stuff for each other. Sometimes, little stuff are the stuff that matter the most. Hope this helped, and funmail me if you need more help!

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