What do I do about my dad?

The other night my dad said that he would not put up with anything gay, which is why my brother cant be his friends best man at his gay weeding. What my dad doesnt know is that im bi, and just the other dayy both before and after he said that he told me that he would accept me no matter what I do. its so confussing, what do I do now?

Answer #1

if your father will accept you for who you r…u should tell him THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY OR BI…society has come to a stage where it accepts you for who you r…whether your gay straight or bi…if he doesnt accept it, give him time…and if he starts a fight ask him: what do you want me to do? because you cant change the fact that your bisexual, its who you r stay strong<3

Answer #2

Nothing. For now you’re going to have to deal with it. I encourage you to get support from the community and form a support outside the home. When you feel emotionally and financially able to, then you can make the decision of whether you want to tell him or not. I know it is hard. I imagine it is devastating feeling like your parent is rejecting who you are or that you have to hide who you are. But for now, unless you are very sure that he wont kick you out, you want to think about telling him. Oh and I know it seems hopeless. You are not alone. A lot of people have had it rough with their parents. And in some cases parents do not come around. But in some cases they do (as much as you cant possible imagine it). I really do suggest you talk to people who are bi or gay. It will help you to see that you are not alone and it isnt always hopeless.

Answer #3

If you’re bi, don’t hide it. Be who you are, and just be proud. Your father said that he’ll accept you no matter what.. If he starts flipping out on you because you’re bi, then he’s a hippocrate. Don’t give a care to what your father thinks. If he’s not accepting, then just don’t talk to him; let it sink in and give him time to think about it..

Answer #4

Well I think you need to wait and just keep it to yourself you know. Is hard keeping a secret and all but at the moment your dad is also going trough an emotional balence because of his son you know. Meaby try talking to someone who can help you out and meaby latter on when you feel secure and all have that pearson go with you to tell him you know so you don’t do it all alone and have someone to sopport incase your dad snaps at the moment. But your dad does love you. He just has to get used to all of this.

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