What do guys look for in girls?

misslost123 has given you advice on what to do if you want to attract one certain type of guy, but a set of rules and guidelines like this is pretty much useless if that’s not who you are comfortable being. Trying to shoehorn yourself into a stereotype of what a ‘’good girl’’ is supposed to be is silly if that’s not who you feel you are. Then the result will be you being awkward and nervous, trying to be someone you aren’t, everyone will see right through the facade, and the result will be the exact opposite of what you intended.

The reality is that all guys look for different things, just as all girls look for different things. Just as no group of people will ever agree on pizza toppings, so too will no group agree on what’s most attractive in another person. misslost123 has given you the criteria for attracting the man that SHE most desires, and no one else. Which is well and good for her, but maybe not for you. Personally, I don’t think I would be attracted to the girl that she has described, because I am drawn more to girls with a bit of an edge, a little dirty, brash and sarcastic, tomboyish with a strong sexuality, not the clean professional in her description.

And please dispose of the fiction that a man has to be a bookkeeper or accountant or Young Republican in order to be a good boyfriend. I’ve known dozens of tattooed garage band rockers (I lived in Portland. They’re like weeds out there) who made wonderful husbands and fathers.

If you’re asking ‘’How should I behave to attract someone nice?’’ then the only answer that will make any sense for you will be ‘’Be comfortable with yourself.’’ When you’re relaxed, confident, and sure of yourself, attraction happens pretty much without you having to worry about it. If you’re thinking ‘’Am I doing this right?’’ all the time, you’re going to make it harder on yourself.