What can I do with his mum and my parents?

I’m 16 and a guy who I bin texting and talking to for a couple of months lives about 60 miles away asked me if we could have a long distance relationship because he really likes me and wants us to go out.I sed yea we could give it a try. I never met him although ment to be in 3 weeks. He’s 17 and I know he is who he says he is because I met him through one of his mates is my mates boyfriend. I sed yes okay then and he told his parents but his mum gets on at him saying it wont last because I live too far away and its kinda upset both of us and we are now in doubt weva to carry on or just end it altogether.in a few months he is getting a car so he can come and see me and I’ve got a job now so I can get on train and see him my parents dont know bout him yet and I dont know how to tell them. So I got 2 questions.

What can he do about his mum doubting us saying it wont last?

How can I tell my parents I’ve got a boyfriend? They are quite laid back but I cant find the right time and dont know how to tell them or should I wait till I’ve met him?

Answer #1

For the first question, who CARES if his mom thinks it won’t last. If it is meant to be, then it will last, you won’t be the first couple to make long distance relationships last. However, you do have more going against you because it is long distance. You are only about 45min away by car, so that’s really not that bad. If you met halfway, only about 23 min, which is totally reasonable. I say give it a go.

As for telling your parents, is this your first boyfriend? If not, you should know how your parents react from previous experience. If this is your first boyfriend, then I’d say it would depend on how close of a relationship with your parents you have and how controlling they are. My parents are pretty relaxed and I would probably tell them that I was going to go meet a boy, in a neutral, public, location that I have been talking with for the last couple of months and that I kinda like this boy, Also, I would mention that we were introduced through a mutual friend.

Answer #2

forget about your mums negative talk if you really like him then stay with him. You should really meet him but always tell your mum as soon as possible so you dont let it build up. If your mum dosnt like it tell her that it’s your life and you can make your own desecisions

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