How to get my mom to leave me alone?

Well I am 35 years old and will tell you right now that your parents will alway try to run your life (mine does). I have a 13 year old and will probably try to run hers too. Just hang in there and remember someday you will be on the other end.

I know! My mom is one of those old fashion types, she is constantly telling me that I am not good enough to be hers and abusing me verbally, we live apart cause I go to school in the capital and she is always making me do chores when my little sister and other girls my age play(age 13) I am cooking, cleaning or being told how worth less I am but I try talking to her but she ussually ends up shouting or hitting me against the wall beating me up or such, I can defend myself, but I just don’t think punching my mom is going to fix this problem, I can’t because she wouldn’t pay my high school fees, I live in a country called Lesotho in Africa completely surrounded by Soth Africa and here free education is not a chance, I have big dreams that my mom doesn’t care about, she always brings my to my so called rural “home” while my friends hit the mall, or visit each other or something .By 15 I will be off to college( I am doing advanced stuff, so I am going to college young)She ruins my self confidence, like I am constantly being told that I can sing , this I do for fun but she is like “You can’t sing, you are ugly” and such and it hurts. I am just hanging in there but one of these days I am seriously going to punch her or something, so be grateful that your mom is not my mom! At least that’s a start.

Get her a dog/puppy or something else to “parent.” It doesn’t work completely, but it allows her to divert her attention at least momentarily to something else. I’m 29 and had to move 3 states away. We keep a better relationship that way. It’s worse when you’re an only child and your mother is divorced and is not dating…Try telling her kindly that you are a responsible person (as she raised you to be), and that you appreciate her insight, love, and guidance, but that she should trust the person she raised to make good decisions, and allow you to learn from your own mistakes. Point out gently how her actions, words, mean-spirited texts are hurting you, and understand yourself that they are usually coming from a place of concern, fear, and desperation at losing their child. Reassure her fears, talk to her more frequently but briefly (if they feel included, they’re less likely to be intrusive), and be firm about your responsible actions and set boundaries that she’s forced to respect. But also respect that she wants what’s best for you. If you’re doing drugs, getting pregnant, etc and you’re in her house or in high school, recognize that she has every right to nag you…

Your Mom is being a parent - looking after your best interests, she obviouly CARES, many, many, many don’t - be Thankful - Growing up is very difficult—for both you and your parents. They remember a little bundle of joy that they held and nurtured as a baby and now they see a budding adult. These days, children face things and know about things that their parents would never have imagined at the same age. The teenagers of today look older, act older and want to be older than their counterparts did just 20 years ago. It is the desire of all parents for their children grow up in the way that they should go (loving, caring, respectful, and being of good solid character). It is necessary that you truly understand that your parents have your best interests at heart. They will withhold privileges, set limits, and raise you to the best of their ability (neither they nor you are perfect), but be Thankful - They Care - many, many, many don’t. Ask them for guidance and seek to understand what truly motivates their decisions. One of the best ways to prove your maturity and prove that you are ready for more trust is to be respectful of your parent’s wishes and accept their guidance. Learn how to communicate love, honor, and respect to each other - I wish you the best !!

I feel the same way to my mother is on my case she says she’s going to move out and she doesn’t care about me that would be the happiest day of my life when I dont have to hear all of her damn nagging in my ear. Shes always questioning me about everything. She just asked me what was I typing she getting on my last nerves!!!

DUDE I TOTALLY KNOW HOW you FEEL!!! im going through the exact same thing. im considering running away too. most of these other responses are FROM mommys and daddys defending themselves, but im 16 and I know what yur going thru and im asking the same question. I sometimes wish I could just get rid of them or move out. im counting the seconds till I leave for college. if you find a way to get yur crazy mom off yur back let me know because my crazy mom is just like how you described. and my dads too much of a puss to stand up and tell her shes bein unfair and a crazy lady. help

DUDE I TOTALLY KNOW HOW you FEEL!!! im going through the exact same thing. im considering running away too. most of these other responses are FROM mommys and daddys defending themselves, but im 16 and I know what yur going thru and im asking the same question. I sometimes wish I could just get rid of them or move out. im counting the seconds till I leave for college. if you find a way to get yur crazy mom off yur back let me know because my crazy mom is just like how you described. and my dads too much of a puss to stand up and tell her shes bein unfair and a crazy lady. help

MI MOTHER IS THE SAME WAY. SHE GETS ON MY NEVERS AND I THINKIN ABOUT RUNING AWAY. MI MOTHER ALWAYS TALKIN ABOUT HOW I CANT HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT WE are IN school what COULD WE DO IF TEACHER are AROUND 24-7. MY MOM always HAS SONGTHIN TO SAY WHEN I WALK IN THE DOOR THERE SOMGTHIN. I JUST WANT HER TO SHUT-UP because I ALREADY TOLD HER I HATE HER BUT THAT DIDDNT WORK you NO LIKE ON THE TV SHOWS WHEN THEY SAY THAT THE PARNETS START CRYIN AND TREAT THEM BETTER BUT I GUESS THAT NOT REAL!!! HELP ME PLEASE

well yea im going threw kinda the same thing except my mom is like by polar like one day she will understand me and she will let me do what I want but when comes down to the day that I can go and hang out with my friends she comes and looks for me and my step dad he dosnt help anything he just puts stuff in her head like im he will tell her im out witha guys when im not im out with my girlfriends. and that is why I started smokin it takes a lot of stress off my back and it makes me feel like nutthin can run over me I just wish she would listin to me when I talk to her cause I would never do anything to betray her trust so yea will someone help me please I mean my goodness im gettin ready to turn 18 in august

Omg, me too, except it’s my dad. I’m a 14 nearly 15 year old girl, so the only choice to consider is going into care or to get fostered. I don’t want that. I can’t live with my mum, personal reasons, she wants me to, but it’s not possible. He’s constantly trying to meet my boyfriends, his mum, all my friends. then he goes and says they’re not suitable! He’s constantly in my room, blocking me from having any private space, it’s like I’m totally trapped in a cage. He’s a bloody manipulator and I actually hate him. I don’t think I have the guts to run away, I’d have nowhere to go. Right now, he’s trying to convince my counceller to stop my sessions, even though it’s my social worker’s desiscion (can’t spell sorry!) if she wants them to stop. I have no idea how to get him off my case. I mean, I love him deep deep deep (DEEP) down, but right now I just can’t find that love. If anyone ever get’s rid of twats like my dad, or has the same experiance, please contact me! Faceboook Charleigh Offley Thanks x

I’m in the same situation you are. I know it’s tough amd you don’t want to back and down and take the critisizm and demands your mom gives you. So, in order to get her to leave you alone, you must show her that you’re capable of doing things on your own and that she does not intimidate you. But, in doing this it would be best if you didn’t cop an attitude, otherwise she may jump on you for that too.