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What can I do about my group?

Pain and simple: I dont feel part of my group in high school

Lets put some more detail into it. In primary school I was a popular kid, everyone was so nice and caring. Everyone respected each other. well, thats not true. I remember one boy who was the opposite of what I was. Nobody wanted to spend time with him. And in looking back I felt sorry for him. I didnt harass him at all. I should have helped him. But now he is popular, enjoying his time in secondary education.

I am happy for him.

But myself im the opposite. I started high school anxiously, still staying with friends I new from primary. As the years dragged on, Groups changed, people changed. I joined a group that are funny. All of them are cracking constant jokes, no matter what was happening. With impressions and amazing anacdotes. But I feel distanced from them. Im not particulary funny (there is the odd good joke but thats very rare). Everytime I hang with them I get the same thoughts - “I just want to disappear, no one will notice”. They also rub in all my mistakes, which makes me feel terrible. It only proves the point that im a failure.

But what can I do? Please give me sensible advise and dont mock.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

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Answer #1

Hi Jack, it sounds like you are frustrated with the group you hang out with at school. What I picked up on most is when you said that they mock your mistakes? This doesn’t seem like a nice thing to do to anyone, especially not if you are hanging out with them, and I hear that it makes you feel like a failure. Just because you are not like them does NOT make you a failure. If you are surrounded by loud, funny people it would be hard for anyone to live up to that, it sounds like you’d have to play a part rather than be a real person. Rather than focusing on how they make you feel, focus on yourself. What is it about you that makes you feel good? What are your strengths, what do you do well? And the more you look, the more you will find. Then other people will want to hang out with you for who you are, rather than what impressions you can do :-) x

Answer #2

Sorry hunny I wont be much help, but this happened to me and what I’ve done is stuck wivv my bessie’s becuase I was too scared to make new ones, but I think you should try mixing with other people and joinging clubs and stuff?

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Answer #3

It looks like you are not that caind of group. Find your kind of group, what you have there are not real friends. YOu need friends that are there when you have tough situations and also that, when you make mistakes they know how to take it whit you and help you solve things, people that don’t bail on you,and most important where YOU know you belong.

So manny people chanche and become somebody else, is just what happens nothing ever stays the same, so you meaby need to chanche too, find your inner self and go and find your real friends.

It is going to take sometime, just know that you do count and go searching, you’ll find your real group, meaby you were made for popular so go whit them you will fit in because you were made for it so don’t be afraind to take chances!!

GOOD LUCK!:)

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