I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. Several weeks ago he and I had sex for the first time (both of our first times as well) it wasn't planned, it hurt like hell, it didn't last that long, and now I'm pregnant. My dad found out and now he hates me because of it (my mom is deceased). My boyfriend is being a total jerk, he's here for me, but he doesn't like to talk about the fact that I'm pregnant. He'll say let's give it up for adoption we don't have to keep it. I don't wanna go through pregnancy at all, but the idea of an abortion freaks me out. I wish my dad and my boyfriend would be more supportive. How can I tell them how I feel? Who can I ask for help?
I know how scared you can be but why didnt you use protection? You can call pregnancy helplines and they can help you. Its scared knowin that you really have yourself 2 depend on. I dont wanna say your boyfriend aint gone be there but if he actin a lil crazy know just wait(not trying 2 scare you) but I have seen it happen 2 many times b 4. I am trying 2 get pregnant 2 tell you the truth. But every 1 is tellin me its better 4 me 2 wait. I dont advice you 2 have an abortion dats not sumthing I would want you or any 1 else 2 do. If you have anything else 2 do @ less go through the pregnancy and give it up 2 a family that good & will take care of the baby. Or have it and take care of the baby if you think you can handle it. Just dont have an abortion. It will hurt more knowing that you killed your baby a baby that didnt ask 2 be here. All I wanna say is love it & whatever you decided 2 do it is your choice but do the right thing I wish you the best.
A baby is a very serious and joyful thing. Abortion is deffinantly not the right thing to do! You would be Killing a young innocent child...althought its not against the law in the government you wouldnt be able to live with yourself after. I know a lady who had an abortion and saw the almost dead child being taken out of her and murdered and put in a special bin, she asked them to stop killing her baby but it was to late. Please dont let this happen to you. tell your boy friend that he needs to take some responibility and if anything (last resort) put your child up for adoption! the baby shouldnt be punished for anothers action..
Please take this advice well I dont mean to be harch its just that I know so many who have aborted and regreted. I have a beautiful 5 month old Nephew and I would do anything for him! and so would his mother and father (my Sister and brother in law)
I hope I have helped! Good Luck! x x x x x x x
yeah why didnt you use protection. it was your fault sould have used a safety method specially when you do it for the first time. your boyfriend is too young to be a father your too young to be a mom to a child . so try talking to your parents . tell them that you need them and help as well.. they should help you. talk to your boy friend tell him how much you need him.etc etc..
the only thing I can think of is.. write them both a letter and tell them they must read it!! and go speak to planned parent hood or someone of that proffession! is there a tutor of any kind you can put trust in.. they can help you out somehow.. or they shud anyway
sorry if I'm not much help! good luck :) xxx
You need to talk to a counselor or Planned Parenthood...you shouldn't be trying to work through this alone.
I'm sorry you don't have all the supports in place, that makes it so much harder for you ... your boyfriend is very immature and needs to take responsibility for his actions - see that he does.
just tell them how you feel and what you think
