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That strongly depends on your own and your families morale values. And the society you live in.
In my place, it's definitely not anymore important to a girls social status. I mean, about 80 years ago, it would have been a capital SCANDAL (in any decent neighborhood) if a girl wasn't virgin anymore before she was married. Or at least engaged. Today, it's completely normal. Curiously, it used to be completely normal back then for a boy to have intercourse before marriage.
So what else could virginity be important for? To avoid teen pregnancies? Most teen pregnancies occur in places where they promote abstinence. The lowest numbers are where there is early, high quality education about reproduction and STDs. So keeping your own virginity will make sure you don't become a pregnant teen. Or a teen father. But it only works if it's your own decision. But insisting on your daughters or sons virginity will possibly be... counterproductive.
Other than that? It's all private business. For girls as well as for boys.
I mean, if somebody believes that it's important to be virgin until marriage or until a certain age, for religious, morale or other reasons, then that's their own decision. They can believe that it's important, Fine. Let them. But if somebody doesn't believe that, if it is not important to them, or if they think it is more important to "know how it feels", then, fine. Let them. That's their own decision.
I don't think that somebody elses virginity should be important to anyone. Except maybe, to their boy/girlfriend or spouse.
It's a free world.
Saving it for the "one" you love is very important, not only to that person.. But for yourself. Reputations can harm you in the figurative sense.. People who tend to say; it's not that important, usually don't realize it until it's too late, that they've just been used.. That's why it's important to wait.. You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex. Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex. Not realizing sex makes many things complicated.. When you keep your virginity, you are honoring yourself, your possible future husband & or wife, and society.. But the importance of it all, is that you as an individual are honoring yourself & show's that you have good morals, self respect, & self control.. Like a lot of you have said, it's about preference.. Just make sure, that it is the right preference.. & your not just another number or notch on someone's belt..
or they feel like they have been lied to their entire lives & are sick & tired of being judged for their every action and are simply rebelling to get even or out of spite if curiosity & peer pressure isnt the case! But then again who has the right to judge or criticize? None of us are 100% pure puritans so what does it really matter? God I wish people would stop judging others as if they are so much holier then thou...cant we all just live & let live! If you do or you dont it is between you & yourself...if you feel right & if you feel ready & you know what the facts are...and the consequences are on you & you alone...then why the hell not?! its 2011 not 25bc! sheesh!!!
OK I'm going to join the crowd and sound like a broken record when I say this, but it solely depends on the person and their beliefs.
However, I think it is important to some extent for everyone. Some hold onto it for personal or religious beliefs until they are married. Some lose it and to them it may be a means of becoming an adult, like a boy becoming a man, or to show how dedicated they are to the significant other.... or (lets hope not) they are bored and just want to do it. Plus I think everyone remembers their first time so that in itself holds some type of importance.
It is important - cause you will remember who you had sex with the first time for the rest of your life.. You should think about it before you do it to know it is something you want to do and be safe doing it. & It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you..
For example: When a person truly does love you & respects you. & are willing to wait That's when you know, that you have a great guy or girl. But that's also when you know they are in love with you... When they have absolutely no problem in waiting. Action's speak louder than words...
it's your opinion but you will always remember the first person you had sex with. i lost my virginity to my boyfriend about a year ago (i was 15). i don't regret it but part of me wishes i had saved it for someone more special to me. some people do not care about the emotional aspect, or care about it, but it is still there. if you do lose your virginity and afterwards realize you wish you hadn't, accept it and move on because that was your decision and you don't want to live the rest of your life dwelling on that.
it's your opinion but you will always remember the first person you had sex with. i lost my virginity to my boyfriend about a year ago (i was 15). i don't regret it but part of me wishes i had saved it for someone more special to me. some people do not care about the emotional aspect, or care about it, but it is still there. if you do lose your virginity and afterwards realize you wish you hadn't, accept it and move on because that was your decision and you don't want to live the rest of your life dwelling on that.
But you don't really prevent teen pregnancies by promoting abstinence. In my country we have few teen pregnancies. And we have gender education really early in school. Like, before they start to think about getting sexually active. While most teens will think about the teen pregnancy problem and decide to remain virgin, some just don't think... They'll have s.x anyway. Whatever you tell them about how great abstinence is. So we need to make sure they know what they're doing when they do it.
I sincerely agree with you :). I have always wanted it with only one man, and that man has to be the man that will spend the rest of my life with. I have always made it clear that I want to wait and have been dumped for it. But lucky me, I found someone who will wait for me, sure it created some problems for us in the beginning but now we have moved through those problems and it's been over two years now :3. Honestly, I cannot imagine sharing that with another man, it just isn't right.
it depends. some people get made fun of for being virgins. others are respected for it. (time for a cliche, but true one) its really all about what it means to you. i mean seriously, why should you care about what others think when you have sex? they arent the ones having your sex are they? I dont consider virginity that important. I respect those who wait and dont judge those who dont. hope this helps :)
i agree with all of you, but i don't agree that say kids around 13 should be open to it. i mean i think boundries and awarness have gone down really far since i was that age. i wasn't even thinking about it. honestly i think all teens should wait until they are mature enough to deal with the emotional attachments and mature enough to deal with the consequence of what could happen such as pregnancy
ok thank you for saying that, kenny was just freaking out. i said i don't agree that kids say around 13 for be open to making that decision for themselves . i didn't mean you idk you to judge you. you see alot of preteens trying to grow up faster and i was saying they need to have more awareness and sex education for the younger teenagers not just older ones. do you understand now.
I believe it is very important, When you have found the love of your life and you get married to them, your virginity is the most precious gift you can give them. It is truly a once in a lifetime event, you will only have virginal sex once and then it is gone forever. A gift that precious should only go to your forever lover, and not wasted on someone not truly committed to you.
i dont judge people for their decisions but alot of people still hold many things dearly and are important to them while a greater fraction of people dont and are more care free. I dont see myself as a better person because i believe virginity is important or that i dont do dr*gs while others do. People can do what ever they please and i will still respect their decisions
IN MY OPPINION IT IS THE REASON IT IS I KNOW YOU DONT WANT TO BE VIRGIN TILL 40 YEARS OLD AND IF YOU REALY LIKE A BOY OR GIRL AND YOU HAVE BEEN WITH THEM FOR A PERIOD OF TIME YOU KNOW YOU COULD TRUST THEM LOVE OR BELIVE THEM YOU JUST DO IT WITH THEM THAT IS IF YOU REALLY LOVE THEM IF YOU ONT OR THINK YOU ARE NOT READY WELL DONT DO IT NO ONE CANT FORCE YOU...
nope bc everybody is trying to get some booty...i dont see anything wrong with being a virgin,i follow my religion;i have no choice. some dont think that way but it all depends on the person ur dealing with.its important if u dont want to discover something new in std's..what do u prefer?.some just cant wait..is it important to? thats what matters...
um no reread the first sentence. it clearly says i agree with all of you, BUT i don't agree that KIDS ( meaning plural and singling out anyone specifically) should not be open to it. and your right what does iher being sexually active have anything to do with what i wrote on my comment. do not know how to read?
Well now days no one ever expects u to stay a virgin! But that doesn't mean it isn't important. I would say it is very important and always will be. It doesn't matter wat everone on earth thinks. Ppl should only aftr they find the person they want to stay with the rest of ther life through thick and thin. :-)
How do u know ur ready though? Ppl dont do it wen they think they r ready that's like saying "Well i have decided today that I am ready." Ok but with who? U cud be 13 and say that 2 your self! I don't know but I would not trust a child to make that decision. Would u??
thats alright, everyone has their own opinions on things and i dont judge people who loose their virginity at young ages to me it is a special thing and i dont want to loose it until i find the right person. Morals differ i understand. Its just my opinion
ok good cuz it was starting to get annoying to have to explain what i wrote 16 times even though it made perfect since the frist time i wrote. tuture referernce don't assume somethings about you just ask and i'm sure the person wiill gladly clear the air
I dont agree with your bit about self control, just because someone is not a virgin doesn't in the slightest mean they have no self control or morals at that. Everyone has there own set of morals and no one else has the right to judge that.
I think virginity is important in the youth nowadays because no many teens try so hard to grow up and end up having s*x and making mistakes. I believe being a virgin shows that you have self control, morals, and are a patient person.
its definitely not as important as it should be to youngsters in high school...its scary :/ if today u walk into a high school n c 20 pregnant girls some not for the first time how will it be in 20 years?
I think to some it is, but to others I dont think in the slightest. It's about personal morals. If someone holds on to their virginity awesome for them and if someone chooses not to it's their choice.
i think people respect you more if you do it after your 16 and its not some one night stand, its actually someone you love and care for...to be honest virginity isnt that big a deal..
I don't believe that it is important as it used to be no. I myself found it very important, I wanted it to be something to remember and fun whilst being with that special person.
No u said that u agreed with everyone but some kid around 13 and u wer talking abt her... Wat does this have to do with Lily being sexually active? And believe me she's not.
I really does depend on your beliefs. However, in my opinion no matter what you believe you should at least make sure your first is someone you significantly care about.
I really does depend on your beliefs. However, in my opinion no matter what you believe you should at least make sure your first is someone you significantly care about.
I really does depend on your beliefs. However, in my opinion no matter what you believe you should at least make sure your first is someone you significantly care about.
I am. I am a christian, but it's not solely on christian morals its also on personal morals. Plus.... I want something new and exciting to do on my wedding night....
i believe that it is important.. but that changes for other people some people just want to have sex to have sex but others want to find the right person to give it to
i believe that it is important.. but that changes for other people some people just want to have sex to have sex but others want to find the right person to give it to
Make sure if ur going to have sex do it with the person u love and care about and know that wont leave you after u do it and also use protection if u are planing to
Make sure if ur going to have sex do it with the person u love and care about and know that wont leave you after u do it and also use protection if u are planing to
It's more important then u think and honestly most girls regret it the first time especially when they are very young wait till after high school I wish I did
i guess its important your trusting your body to someone else you can do what ever you want with it its yours the most imortant thing is not to regret it
it depends on the person's virginity that it is. I think virginity is important and you should only lose it to someone that you love and hat loves you back
i guess its important your trusting your body to someone else you can do what ever you want with it its yours the most imortant thing is not to regret it
not you in specific just younger teens in general. your a smart girl for waiting =) but there are kids your age that aren't that need to be educated.
i said KIDS being plural and a general word. and i wasn't nor do i no if she is sexually active and still in yet my opinion stands with that haha
It depends on each person, each person has different values and views on it. FOr some, like me, it's very important for others it isn't.
it depends if youre emotionally and physcally ready. i am not ready for all that and i feel more comfortable waiting until i am married
To some people it is, But MOST people nowadays, thin k loosing theyr virginity is no big deal, kinda like getting a paper cut.
I'm only 14 and I would think u would know just by that but now days?.. Heck yeah! And I plan on keeping it!
Well my dear that depends on whom the person is, what they believe in & how they really feel about it! :P
what do you mean you? like i agree with you and your response or was i talking about you?
Wait. NOOOW I understand. I'll make sure Kenny does too. Sry didn't understand b4. :) :D
Yeah it would be boring if u did it with ten ppl or more in ur life dozens of times! :-D
dude it all on you if u feel its important then it is if u feel its not then it isnt...
4 some reason I can't understand wat u write either.... ? It's confusing... ? :D
Loose your virginity to the right person but after that have sex with whoever.
yes there is still alot that is important just most people dont see it anymore
But y should I be educated if I don't plan on haveing sex till afrt I'm 20?
Well I thought I understood. That was the prob. :D Thx! Nenermind! :DD =DD
Yeah... Freaking out is wat Kenny does best! :D LOL! Got u Kenny! :D lol
Yes.. and maybe you are one them not doing such this thing right?
Yes.. and maybe you are one them not doing such this thing right?
Ah u said the kid around13 she thought u wer talkin abt her. :)
i agree with you, and would like this more than once if i could
well, considering the outbreak of pregnant teens, id say yes.
It's not a big deal it's all about if you believe your ready.
I believe that virginity is only important to the person.
Not as important as you are and what you think about it.
well said temptress, i totally agree with your comment..
Well who on here still has own's a V-card? & be honest..
Me and I've been with my boyfriend for a long time too.
I am. And I plan on staying that way 4 quite a while.
Thanks Nightangel...:) Just speaking from the heart.
i think no my friends get knockd up all the time
It is bru that happens to be your first eh...
Is anything really important nowadays....
Yeah. I understand wat u think. Thanks.
I do and I like it that way. :)
Have any of u wachd 17 again??
Ya we should start a club! :D
That doesn't make it right.
I was 17 when I lost mine.
or they just don't care...
yea, im a virgin
I agree 100%!
it is to me.
U mean me??
Yeah!
Me!
