Violent sister

My sister, 11 and I, 13 fight more than anyone I’ve ever met. She’s so violent to me! Whenever I do one little thing, such as use one of her pillows, she elbows me in the chest, pulls my hair, smacks me, and one time she punched me twice. The worst part is that she’s doing it with anger, not “playfulness.” my mother/father never discipline her because they say it “takes two to fight”. Thats true, but I’m the one getting violently hurt! Sometimes I’m even scared of her. Even recently when we were on our boat, my mom saw my back and asked me why I had 3 big bruises down my backbone, but not wanting to get my sister in trouble I said nothing. Please help me. I’m only 13 and being abused,

Answer #1

THE SAME THING HAPPEND TO ME WHEN I WAS 12 BUT MY SISTERS ARE TWINS SO THEY BOTH BEAT ME UP PLUS THERE BOYFRIENDS WOULD PUNCH ME I WOULD GET BUSTED LIPS AND OTHER…WHAT I DID WAS I WOULD STAY AS FAR AWAY FRM THEM AS POSSIBLE IM SCARRED FOR LIFE NO LITTERALLY SCARRED ONMY BACK CHIN AND LEGS I WILL NEVER FORGIVE THEM FOR THAT

Answer #2

well firstly help your sister out since shes doing it out of anger. like she might thank you for it in the future, maybe somethings bothering her so ask her if theres anything she wants to talk about. but if it doesn’t work then you need to tell your mother about your sister or else her violence to you will only get more and more serious as she gets older. please be carful and do the right thing

Answer #3

A videotape would show the aggressor - tell her you’re not the enemy, you love her - maybe she needs to hear that…I wish you the best !!

Answer #4

It will be ok. all you have to do is go to your parents and tell them what is going on. And tell them everything that you just wrote. If they care they will see how scared you are and take action. You can also try spending more time with your sister, so you and your sister can develop a close relationship, and then the violent actions will stop.

                                      Ideas of what you should do with her:

                                            1. Go get ice cream


                                             2. Therapy


                                              3. Go to the park


                                             4. Watch Movies (home videos maybe)


                                          hope this helped!

                                                      GOOD LUCK! =)

P.S. If they don`t believe you then show them the injuries.

Answer #5

gah everytime I tell someone about it they say, “oh yeah im sure you probably hit her first” or something stupid like that, and today when she didn’t want me in the golf cart with her, she pushed me out of it and I hurt my wrist really bad. it’s not that I’m too weak to fight back, but I think it would be horribly sick to hurt a little 11 year old back. plus, it’s to my advantage when she’s not hurt and I am. and the other day I told my parents that she’s probably going to be in very big trouble when she’s an adult, and all my father said was “she probably will.” I just dont think they believe me.

Answer #6

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It seems to me that she may be jealous of you and maybe any “perceived” benefits that your age may be granting you.

First, try to avoid doing things that you know will upset her. Such as invading her space or messing with her things with out her permission.

Second, try making her into a friend. Spend some time with her and do things that SHE would like to do.

Try not to judge her and try treating her more as your equal.

Answer #7

ok breathe. this is actualyl not funny at all. but I completly believe you. you need to tell your parents about your sister. if she is doing this to her own sister at age 11 just thikn of what could possible come. you need to tell them that it is very serious and that it is scaring and hurting you. tell maybe your ants/uncles if they visit a lot or grandparents they will be able to convince your parents as well. assure them that you do fight back but not out of revenge but out of definse. dont keep quiet about this if she is hurting yuo you need to say something.

Answer #8

Me and my sister where worse I even phoned the police on her for attempted murder (all over a pair of jeans)she tried to hit me round the headwith an electric drill lol wrnt that funny then but know both of us have grown up nearly 18 and 19 and we both have jobs we love we get on like a house on fire

Answer #9

so you will be able to sort it out most of the time you 2 are at an age were its the law to fight with each other thats what sisters do

Answer #10

This is not cool of her. I am sorry that this is happening to u…U need to tell people.tell your parents. they need to know that this is happening to you cause its not cool. They can talk to her, and maybe get her therapy. you should also be as nice to her as posible and make sure she knows that you love her. Good luck!!! I hope this helped!

Answer #11

What are you? A sissy? Fight back…

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