How do I NOT trust people anymore?

The problem with putting a wall up is that while you miss out on being hurt, you also miss out on the joy that comes with taking risks. By taking risks you’re diving into the unknown. While sometimes it may turn out badly, there’s a good chance that it won’t.

Getting hurt really, really sucks. I know. I dropped every single wall for my last partner, only for them to lie and hurt me after endlessly promising not to. But you know.. you can’t let pain stop you from living. By putting up walls, that’s exactly what you’ll be doing. Because in living, we get a little bit of everything. A little joy, a little sadness, a little pain. It sucks sometimes, but you can’t get to the joy without testing the waters.

You seem like a pretty awesome person. Whoever hurt you? They don’t deserve you, your time, and they certainly don’t deserve having the power to shut you down like this. More importantly, you deserve better. If you want to protect yourself more, let people earn your trust. Don’t shut them out completely, though. In the long run, it will hurt you too.

See here’s the thing. You’re asking how not to trust people, but what you really mean is how do I stop from getting hurt ever again. And you can’t. As much as I feel for you and as much as I wish there was a way to protect people from getting hurt. It sucks. It hurts. It shouldnt happen. But it’s just part of life. You continue the risk because the reward is worth it. And listen, you can deal with the pain. And you’ll continue to deal with the pain because the potential for reward is worth the risk. And one day you’ll be rewarded, and you’ll see that it was worth it. And that sounds like nonsense from a fairy tale, but it’s true. In the meanwhile, I’m sorry things suck. But you’re strong enough to deal with it.

There is such a thing as a “middle road”…trust is not an all or nothing concept. Also, people tend to believe what they want to believe…so ask yourself, am I going down this garden path because I like what is being said? Or…do I truly feel this person is a sincere person?? TRUST YOUR GUT…most of us have to learn that, and some of us learn faster than others…there are usually red flags, a twinge in the gut…that says “hold off on believing this one until you know them better”.

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I don;t trust ANYONE. I have no problem NOT trusting people. People for the most part are out for themselves and will hurt you to benefit themselves. They always put themselves first and will always let you down. There are only two people in this entire world that I trust. My fiance of 10 years, and my best friend. My parents both let me down, as did a boatload of my so called “friends”. I used to trust, but now I am very cautious. If I do ever trust someone it takes a LOT for me to do it. And at least a year or two of seeing what kind of person you are. But thats just my opinion. And no I am not a bitter person. Just been through some things with people that makes me choose not to trust people.

Don’t lose faith. This world is covered by so many different people. Some might be good or the other way around. Its just a matter of trial and error. You try your luck and sometimes you get a good one or sometimes you might get a bad one. Its not always a good day. But don’t ever lose hope. It might be hurtful or tough at times but all these experiences will eventually turn in to meaningful lessons. Lessons that will make you who you are someday. (^^,)