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I would like to tell you thank you

but yes I know it is young, I have troubles beign able to even admit to my closest friends what has been going on in our relationship…and everytime I tell my bestfriend what has been going on sexually she always says “wow. I never expected him to be like that”. my boyfriend and I both have a 3.86 for our grades. which is one B. we both get mostly along with our parents and enjoy doing sports. but when we are in his room its like horny time. I hate it. and at first,when were in his room I just sit there and we talk. but then he starts to try kissing me and I dont kiss him back for awhile…its just some weird thing that happends I guess? I do it everytime. but basically I love him,and he loves me…I think so. and neither of us WANT to have sex. because of what could happen. our futures would be over. and both of us have plans. but whenever a half hour passes in his room its like sex… I dont know what to do. and your reply has somewhat helped.I would love if you answered this question.

It sounds like you both are very good kids. I know many people who are wonderful students and stay actively involved with activities, but are VERY different when alone. Just like you two. Some feel guilty about being so sexual while portraying an innocent, perfect person. Being a teenager, your body will change and hormones will rage. Many just get “caught up in the moment” with their loved one because you are starting to change. You may be in what some call a “sexual relationship” meaning that part of it semi-revolves around sexual things. You say you hate it. If you don’t like how it turns sexual everytime, you should have the power to push him away. I ended up pushing my boyfriend back, and it helped me learn about our relationship. I know it is hard to turn away someone you love, but if you give it a chance you may find some things out about your relationship that you never would have known otherwise. Plus, once you go a few weeks without any “activity”, you will probably feel like you could go for months because you will hopefully find a new way that he agrees with to express your love. Give it a shot. If you decide you want to slowly pull away from the sexual things in your relationship and he strongly disapproves, you are trapped in a relationship you probably shouldn’t be in. However, hopefully you will learn some things and find some new, fun ways to hang out. Sexual things can get old after a while. Walking in parks, feeding ducks, going bowling, bike riding, whatever! There are countless things you can do with your boy that don’t give opportunities for sexual things that are different and fun! Always going to his house is just asking for it ;P