Do you think I can pull back the love from my affair? (continued)

Hello sue90. Some time has passed since I posted my situation, and I just wanted to say that I went back this morning and read your second response and found some strength in it. I’ve always known I needed to “grow up”, but you’re correct in saying it’s hard when the affection of a younger, more inticing person was out there to be had. As an update, it’s no longer there to be had. She’s forced herself to move on, and has already fallen in love with another co-worker. This should obviously show that even though I had correctly assessed her affections for me, she’s still too young to know what she wants, much less what she’s doing to other people’s hearts. My difficulty now is in my wavering desire to remain in touch with her. It’s hard to comprehend not talking to her everyday, but I’m growing angry with her overall lack of respect for MY feelings. Again, I know she’s young, but you just don’t fall in love with someone else in a month’s time and expect the “old flame” to remain in touch and friendly. In that line of thinking, I think my pride needs to kick in and subsequently kick her to the curb. The problem is that part of me that has always cared for her well-being. I’m almost too kind to do such a thing, especially when she’s in such obvious emotional turmoil. But I can now see that my help isn’t wanted. Or even needed. It’s someone else’s problem now, and I suppose I should just leave it at that and walk the other way. So, anyways, I think you can see the hurt I have, and the frustration that’s ensued here. I know you don’t know me from Adam, but despite being a “pig” and being greedy with the affections of a younger woman, I really do have a heart underneath it all that’s struggling to cope with a sudden change after months of being entwined with another human being. I need to get over this one way or another, so any advice, words of encouragement, or even scolding is welcome. Thanks! Ken