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How can I get my relationship back to normal like before he started working?

Okay so iv been in an online relationship with my curent boyfriend for a year and 2 months, we really love each otehr and it is a very serious relationship. We spend up to 15 hours a day with each other (this is rare) but usually about 9-10 hours. Recently he started a new job at mcdonalds and we dont talk as much, it got so bad that we woul be lucky if we talk for maybe an hour a niht and not to mention my internets been going really bad so i rarely get to see him properly too. When we talk he seems very disinterested and bored and im scared that maybe hes getting tired of me, im also very clingy and need constant attention from me and also constantly paranoid about him, i fear maybe the worst, we broke up once a while back near april ( he dumped me saying the distance was too much) he asked for me back after 2 days saying hed never made such a big mistake, since then iv been more cautious and careful. Im really scared im losing him, have you guys got any advice on how to keep him interested and to make sure he stays with me, Anything would help at this point .

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Answer #1

Stefie, from what I read it doesn’t seem as if the reason is his disinterest but more he is tired from work and school. Since you used to spend nine to ten hours together and now down to one hour I can only conclude he is working a lot. My boyfriend a year ago began working a new job, this new job required him to work at 3 am to 12 sometimes 1pm. So he would always be tired and didn’t have as much time for me anymore. Anyways I’m quite clingy toi and need lots of attention from him. I did something stupid, I pushed him to see me more and was quite whiny when I couldn’t, we fought a lot because of this. I think, Stefie, all he really needs is some time to rest, try not to push him too much. Working many hours, and at minimum wage places like McDonalds can be really stressful. D talk to him though about this. Tell him his seemingly disinterest is scaring you. Tell him you understand he is tired too. All in all, when you talk to him don’t be accusing or whiny sounding. He should understand. Ten both of you can make a little more effort together, you more understanding of his situation, him more understanding of your need of him.

Answer #2

honey! i learnt this the hard way, DO NOT EXPECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO BE EXACTLY AS IT FIRST STARTED, it will defo change and he would seem like he is not interested but trust me he doesnt need to tell you that he loves you, you need to know that yourself. i’ve been with mine for almost 3 years, its nothing like it was when it first started, but i know he still loves me, and MEN HATE IT WHEN GIRLS ARE CLINGY AND WHINY, so dont do that, thats when he will get very bored and tired of you., dont push him to do anything he cant do. give him space, let him work, dont whine, he will realize on his own that h is not giving you that much attention, thats what i did to my bf and he ended up apoligizing for not giving me that much attention anymore and i didnt even hint that i needed his attention.

Answer #3

Get him to quit XP

Seriously, learn to live with it. You are not a man if you don’t work, so don’t stand in the way or he may hate you. I know this may sound cruel, but things won’t be the way they were when he had much spare time for you. Now that he works you two have to act like grown-ups and stop thinking like life is all about our hearts, or even our reproductive organs.

Economy doesn’t bend for love. Don’t make him choose between you and work. Instead of complaining about things which you can’t, and shouldn’t, change, just enjoy growing up with your lover.

Answer #4

you just go to sleep on bad ang thing what is your hand and what is gone what you want and what he want so ofter you batter thing coming and ofter you done your life 

     ali
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