should i stop being so agressive when it comes to telling teenagers about abstinence???

People get annoyed if they feel you are lecturing them. You will end up getting a reputation of being overbearing and thinking you’re better than everyone else. Share your philosophy with people who ask for your advice :)

thank you :)

thats true. its their problem if something happens, they knew the consequences

Sorry that this is long, but it is important. Naomi, you are very right that having sex too early is not smart. Even if there were no pregnancies nor any diseases, having sex creates a psychological bond (esp. for girls) that always catches people by surprise. However, there ARE diseases and there ARE pregnancies waiting to happen. So… I am very glad that you realize the pitfalls, and certainly if asked you should express yourself, BUT try not to use words like ‘stupid’. That just makes others defensive. Let them know that some STDs are for life (herpes and HIV), and a pregnancy means deciding between abortion, adoption, or raising a baby - a total change in their life. For yourself, know that EVERY guy (without exception) is driven by his hormones to want sex. He might not DO anything, and he may control the urge, but the desire is still there. And EVERY male (again, without exception) will go for much of his early adult life with no real concept of the consequences of sex. He just wants to do it. The thing for gals to remember is to form a relationship with a guy first - dating, movies, biking, talking, or whatever (but best if you limit or exclude alcohol or drugs since they will cloud your thinking). Not only will that help you find someone who is right for you, but it weeds out horn dogs who only want to bed you - they won’t stick around. Now there are many guys who do hold back from actually having early sex, and it sounds like your guy may be one of those. But if the time comes when you do have sex, whether after you are married or before, and you do not want to become pregnant then use protection. And most often the protection is because the gal insists, or she has already begun hormonal prevention (BC pills). So in short, protect yourself with knowledge, and if a friend or classmate talks about possible sex, you can let your thoughts be known in a thoughtful way rather than an aggressive way. I wish you the very best. Good Luck!!

toning it down a bit would be good if people are beggining to get annoyed to the point were they might hurt you over it. i myself always, especially on here feel like im repeating myself over and over again and like to point out how its not a good idea to have sex at a young age and ancourange them to learn about it first, theres nothing wrong with being concerned or even feeling bad because so many young people end up being pregnant but try not to be mean to them, try to encourage them to learn more before they start it or just express yourselfin a non abusive way, so dont start accusing them of something, just point out what could happen instead

thank you very much. i understand a lot more clearly now. :)

thank you a lot :)

Yes. If I were one of the girls you were preaching to I would probably beat you up. It’s their lives, their business. STAY OUT OF IT.

:/ yeah i got the message already but thanks anyways