after I take a couple of drinks I become more sociable

Heres some steps to becoming more social:

“Step1 Be aware of your own interaction with other people. Identify which behaviors and situations make you uncomfortable. Think about how you can modify your own behavior to turn it into a positive experience.

Step2 Ask others for honest feedback regarding you interaction with others. This can be very helpful, though you must accept the negative feedback that comes along with the positive and make changes accordingly. You must also be comfortable apologizing to others if you acted in the wrong.

Step3 Use positive body language when relating to other people. Use direct eye contact, face the person you’re speaking to and avoid fidgeting or being inattentive. Body language is at times more important than the actual words being spoken.

Step4 Learn to truly listen to what the other person is saying. You may need to fight the urge to quickly rebuttal or respond after a thought comes to mind, but, out of respect, it is your duty to listen to his complete statement and then respond.

Step5 Attempt to change one or two behaviors at a time. Trying to overhaul your whole personality at once will be exhausting, overwhelming, and likely impossible.

Step6 Maximize your positive personality traits. Ask friends and family about your positive attributes, and let them shine while interacting with others. Good communication and great listening skills your most important tools.

Step7 Be approachable. Body language and facial expression are cues others take when deciding if someone is approachable. If you are interested in others coming your way, be open, happy and inviting.”