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My mother is an extreme hoarder, she does not live with me but is trying to. I have called housing authorities about her extremely hazardous living conditions in reguards concerning no running water, no electricity, insulation pouring out of cealings, trash and sharp objects everywhere, 5years worth of liter and feces ect…..my issue is why do my aunts say that I’m mean and cruel for trying to help her? She refuses to get help herself and I don’t want her to take my infant child into these living conditions because it’s dangerous. They don’t have to clean up after her, infact they are afraid to talk to her about her haording issues because she throws things, curses, and can become violent. So how am I the bad guy here?

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Answer #1

your really not the bad guy, i think you call housing authorities or something bc think….. would you rather call them and get your mother help or not call and your mother get a sickness or d1e…..

Answer #2

Your first obligation is to your own children, not your mother….so you are only a “bad guy” to those who don’t want to deal with mom themselves. You stand firm on your duties as a parent…..You can’t deal with a hoarder mom moving in with you, and from everything I’ve seen about hoarders, you’re likely to have to deal with Child Protectives if you do let her in.

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Answer #3

You are definetely not the bad guy in the situation, really no one is. I think you aunts are have a hard time accepting the issue and you are doing the right thing in not bringing your child in that dangerous environment. Hoarding is an addiction. Here are some websites to help you better understand the situation and how to treat it. http://funadvice.com/r/3k4g3fqp0p and http://funadvice.com/r/3k4g3fqp64 I hope this helps you :)

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