Sick of being "just the friend"- Do girls actually like "nice guys"

Throughout High School, I was always picked on and teased, and it kind of taught me about humility and trying to be a good person, coupled with the fact that I have very mild Autism, which also taught me a lot, and so, aside from my best 2 friends, most of my “buddies” were girls, because I always tried to be gentle and nice to everyone. I didn’t want to be an *hole like everyone else. Hence, girls felt safe talking to me, and I kind of took on the honorary role of the “gay friend”.

Now, in college, I’m continuing to be that guy around girls, and it’s killing me. I’m 22, never even had a date, only kissed a girl once, etc. And the only girl I’ve ever really cared about is just friends with me because I’m act so nice and easy to talk to. And the truth is, I’m really only that way around certain people- in reality, I’m a fun-loving, average-guy. I just feel better to be nice and respectful socially.

Ladies… do you actually like the nice guys at all? Because I like to think I’m one, but it’s gotten me nowhere.

Answer #1

I do, I usually go for the nice guys, rather than the guys all the other girls like. I’d imagine other girls out there do too, so I’m sure you’ll find someone:)

it is true that, women always want what they can’t have. so that one guy who’s a complete ahole and never really gives in to the girl, they’ll always have a thing for.

Answer #2

hey hey, I am sorta in the same boat as you, just without the being picked on and the autism part, I hate being called a “sterotypical bloke” because im not just because im male doesnt mean I want 1 damned thing.

Im writing because im interested in what is said and its the best way for me to keep track of the question kk cheers, and gd luck

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