what shouold i do about my dad?

he wont let me do anything cause he thinks im doing stuff i shouldnt be doing and now he made my life a living hell i pretty much lost all my friends cause im always in a bad mood. i always wanna die no one likes me anymore…

well it sounds like it is a compeltly differnt senaro than my dad i dont have any family but my partner and his family. you need to establish trust with your dad and this takes alot of time, and once lost is so hard to get back if you do the right thing and just do what he says even if you dont agree with it, he will trust you more and you will be allowed to do more things

First of all you need to think of the bigger picture, you are thirteen. In 5 years you will be legally an adult and will be allowed to move out. 5 years may seem like a long time (and it will feel like a long time) but in the scheme of things it is nothing. Just believe in yourself and know that you are an amazing person and do not deserve to be treated like this. Everybody has different battles and life experience. They teach you life lessons. Things you need to go through for some reason. Do you know why he treats you like this? Why he seems angry? Are there other things going on at home that is making him on edge?

no last year my mom cheated on my dad and my dad made such a huge deal about it and i felt bad for my mom more then my dad so ever since then my dad hated my mom and i. they arnt divorced cause i have a 5 year old sister and a 11 year old brother but my dad is so mean to my mom and i but now when my mom is gone away fro the army or work hes so mean hes more mean to me then my mom i have to make sure the house sparkels when he comes home hes like one of thes dads in movies. like perfect example cinderella but instead its my dad and he tells all my friends i cant hang out and does all this mean stuff he blames everything on me takes it all out on me. i didnt do anything but then again its all my fault. its even my fault my mom cheated.):

Oh gosh. Just ignore him hun. Do what he says because if you challenge him he will get angry. Just be quiet and talk to your mom about it all. Have a serious talk with her about how unhappy you are. Unfortunately not much can be done legally if he doesn’t abuse you physically. Just try and keep out of his way and do what he says. Don’t talk back etc. Maybe you could ask your siblings how they feel. If all 3 of you are unhappy, you cold approach your mom and have a talk about leaving him.

just do what he says, its hard but wait till your mum gets home and talk to her life is hard its not ment to be easy and everyone has a bag situation just try and make the most of it things want stay this way forever

my brother wont and my sister doesnt understand but i tell my mom everything i think i wanna tell her i need to actually see someone i dont sleep at night now i dont go to bet till like 6 or sometimes i will go days without sleep n just live off coffee i cant sleep cause im always crying): and my mom doesnt know that but i think i need help this isnt good for my body and i dont know how to tell my mom or even if i should go see a doctor this is making my body all messed up have messed up periods n stuff im fallling appart im always stressed and im only 13 my life feelss completely worthless and pointless. some day im just gunna fall and cant get up..

you obisly have the strenth in you from what you have just said you need to see someone dose your school have a scool conserlor? i think you need help sweety

First, you must understand the dynamics of what happened when your mom cheated. It’s thrown him for a loop…and men, when confronted with things that are scary or threatening, react with anger. So understand that what you’re seeing is actually “fear”, not meaness (tho it comes out sideways as meaness)….I know that 13 is pretty young to have a talk with your dad, but IF you approach it with some understanding of where HE’S at, you could tell him..”Dad, I know this is a bad time for you and mom…but I’m not mom…and it hurts me very deeply, that you take your anger at her out on me”…keep it simple, don’t be accusatory, just keep it to how it makes YOU feel. He probably has no idea that he’s reacting and taking his hurt out on you.

yeah but the conserlor at my school is my friends dad and all the people at my school would make fun of me. i had this problem before but not this bad. im gunna talk to my mom and try start going to church again. but no one knows about this little problem i have of mine. not even my friends. my mom knows very little. and the only way i get attion is by doing stuff with guys. one of my best friends who is a guy had the same problem like the not sleeping problem and he started smoking to get rid of the pain he even cut himself i dont do that but now im starting to think about smoking to mak myself feel better and just forget about it for a while. and i really want me n my mom to go somewhere far away just me n her for like 2 weeks to just run away from everything for a while but i dont know how to tell her. and i think that just might be what i need.. somewhere stress free.. n yeah i think i do need help too): i dont know what to do and im really scard…

i hate saying it but i try being nice but im to the point where i just sit in my room all the time im scaard to go downstars he always will come up to me and say thiss is all your fault you little bitch. he always says im a slut or a whore and the one i cant forget he once said i will get no where in life.. i cant forgive him after all this. its over the line. seriously.

Please don’t start smoking or cutting yourself, both of those things will not fix anything and will just hurt you more. You should definitely start talking to your mom more. Best of luck xxxxxxx

Honey…”being nice” is not the same as taking the bull by the horns. Hiding out isn’t being proactive. Sincerely (key word) looking at HIS side of what has happened, and letting him know that you understand that he’s angry/hurt/scared..but taking it out on you is extremely hurtful. Tell him how it makes you feel, without pointing any fingers at him…does that make sense. It’s a scary thing to do, but it’s also a mature way of at least stating how you see what’s going on.

well cousuling would be a good idea but why don’t you talk to him and tell him how you feel and if you do listen to him maybe he wouldn’t be so mean 2 you….

well cousuling would be a good idea but why don’t you talk to him and tell him how you feel and if you do listen to him maybe he wouldn’t be so mean 2 you….

well cousuling would be a good idea but why don’t you talk to him and tell him how you feel and if you do listen to him maybe he wouldn’t be so mean 2 you….

well cousuling would be a good idea but why don’t you talk to him and tell him how you feel and if you do listen to him maybe he wouldn’t be so mean 2 you….

well cousuling would be a good idea but why don’t you talk to him and tell him how you feel and if you do listen to him maybe he wouldn’t be so mean 2 you….

well cousuling would be a good idea but why don’t you talk to him and tell him how you feel and if you do listen to him maybe he wouldn’t be so mean 2 you….

i wont. its bad for you and i herd about what happened to those people who do that stuff.

im scaard he might hurt me i tryed telling him i dont like how its all my fault why is it is there a way so i can not make it my fault. he just puts it all back on me. im scard of him he always says hes gunna huut me. thats why i need someone to talk to about this so maybe they can tell him everything i said with out hurting me.