Should I stay or should I go?

Hey wt84, you sound like me a month ago, and I know it can get really tough. In my case it got to her asking for a ‘break’= breakup. But I turned it around, now im ready to dump her in a sec if she acts up. Whats happening is she is losing interest because your coming off insecure, your not confident, looking for approval from her by saying ‘are we ok ?, do you want to do that ?’, ‘is it big enough’(I’ve read your other posts) and im guessing your always giving into her, coming across dependant(clingy) on her and predictable. Bottom line is shes knows she can have you, get whatever she wants, theres no challenge for her so shes bored, starts picking at your flaws and thinking if I can get him I can do better… I could be wrong but if this sounds like you, and shes saying shes seeing you more as a friend. You have to first realise you could be too late she might have met someone else or might have just thought about it. If shes sincere though and nothings happened then fair play for her wanting to work things out but it sounds like your not liking his relationship anymore, your doing all the work. In short my advice if you love her is to become more of a challenge…so she realises whats shes missing. If your too clingy or dependant figure out why, buy a self help book to get the confidence/ self esteem up, go out with the lads more, take up a sport. Be a bit mysterious about what you get up to when you go out, keeping her guessing, be a little unpredictable. Dont come off too emotional. Be the man, its what she wants and be decisive about going out, your in control not her. Make yourself less available so your not taken for granted. Get out of the friends zone. Poke her, in the side, when your out walking or walk her intentionally into things playfully. If she pushes or pokes you back in a fun way your doing well… let the tension build. If something happens and you end up in bed together…thats good but never expect or plan it… If it doesnt work after a month or 2 seriously consider the future. Theres a lot of other women out there would jump over themselves to get with you. Is it seriously worth being in an unhappy relationship ? …in my humble opinion lifes too short

                           - nc

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To learn about attraction google ‘relationship blog’, the 1st link is a great site for info and google ‘askmen wuss’ has great advise about why women lose attraction, also google ‘cocky and funny’. Pua’s like msytery and style can give information on how to tease a girl or to work on getting a new girl if you decide to break up