Should I marry him or wait a little while

brtremblay: You say you wish we knew you as a friend and then gave advice- in that case, why didn’t you ask some of your friends if you should marry him?

Anyways. You’ve been with him for 8 months, but you say you’ve been with him on and off since you were 14. That gives an indication of the stability of the relationship. If you’ve broken things off, then gotten back together, then broken things off and gotten back together… that’s a big sign it’s not a stable relationship. Sure, things might have changed over the years, but marriage is a pretty big step. You’re 17, you’ve still got a million and one hormones rushing through your body, and they do cloud your judgement. The guy I saw myself marrying when I was 17 is the last guy I’d want to marry now.

Give it a few years and see how you feel. While my husband and were friends for years, and we knew we wanted to get married a few months into our relationship, we moved in together, and spent almost two years together before we actually got married. We went through a lot in those 2 years, and we really saw some rather trying times together. Those two years were crucial in the development of our relationship, and I think we saw exactly what we were in for. Marriage isn’t something you should go into lightly, and the fact that you’re asking other people whether you should or not seems to be a pretty big indicator that you’re not ready.

Give it time, there’s no rush.

I moved in with my boyfriend we are going to get married after I graduate probably next june or july we are very happy together hes the only guy that hasnt cheated on me I already prmoised him I would never leave him so you guys are wrong about us

hey people he hasnt changed because its been 10 months and I day and look we are still together

I agree with all of the above. My first deep true love who I thought I would rather die than be without and I broke up 3 months after I had our baby. I was devistated but had to move on. You would really be suprised how much you do change in those years. If he is really worth it he will wait and vise versa. You need to learn to be self sufficient before being in a married relationship. You also need to really know yourself.

Definitely not. Thats nowhere near long enough. Wait till you are older and have been dating longer. After almost 4 years I just broke up with the person I saw myself being with for the rest of my life. Take things slow.

well of course I just wanted advice I’ve grow up with this guy we’ve been going out on and off since I was 14 and this is the first time we been together this long with out breaking up

okay yea we have in the past been on and off but his sisters got jelious because we were together and forced him to break up with me and the other times it was his sister s to now that he lives on his on he dont care if gis sister cares or not we been together for almost 9 months and its without splitting up I made mistakes that m,ade us break up and he did to but we realize what we did was wrong and we worked things out before dating again I know some of it dont make sense and by the way I dont have any friends thats why I want some advice from you people

The trouble is, you change so much between the ages of 18 and 22. You change in so many ways - your outlook, your philosphy on life, career, kids, houses, even your values can change, and often, your partner changes in a different way. Sometimes the woman gains more confidence in these years, and the man stays the same. Or one of you gets tired of your old group of friends and the other doesn’t. And then there can be building resentment and huge unhappiness.

Of course we’re always changing, but in my opinion those years between late teen and early 20’s are very significant.

I’d agree with Steph and say, wait. You have so much time ahead, and he may not be the one.

I think he is but I did say I want the honest truth sometimes I wish you people knew m e as a friend