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Should I have s*x with my boyfriend?

ok so turns out i gave my boyfriend a hand job but my arm got really tired and i didnt get to finsh. my shoulder just like becomes sore. and i let him finger me. now i think i want to have s*x with him but there are a few reasons i dont want to.

  1. pain
  2. position- im body concious
  3. scared the condom will break

my biggest reason out of these is the 2nd one.

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Answer #1

Well, you should NEVER EVER do something you dont want to or feel unprepared for or pressured to do. It doesn’t matter what your boyfriend says. This is your body. I am assuming that this would be your first time, and so, you need to get some more information about intercourse and its consequences. If you feel you are completely informed and really ready to give yourself to him in this way, than working on your self confidence to overcome your body image issues is key. You have to realise that you are beautiful the way you are, and if your boyfriend loves you and truly cares about you, he will feel the same. Talk to him about your concerns, if he cares about you and not just getting laid, he’ll listen and help you to overcome them and feel better about yourself. Only when you are informed and confident in yourself and your decision can you make a smart one.

Answer #2

If you have ANY uncertainties, DON’T DO IT. When its time, you’ll be certain, and you’ll be ready…

Answer #3

You said you only think you want to have s*x. Please be 100% sure before you do. How old is your b/f and how long have you been with him. You are under the age of consent. But using a condom is a form or birth control and prevention of STD so its good that you know you need to use one. If the condom does break you have 72 hours to get the morning after pill to prevent pregnancy and you can go to a clinic for a STD check if you think you are at risk. But i would seriously think about whether you really want to or not.

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