Should I get pregnant?

Latley I’ve been thinking that I should get pregnant even though im only 14.

heres why: I am in REAL love with my best friend and I think if I had the child with him it would make our friendhsip stronger and he would stay by me. I am having some issues at school with some girls and they always put me down and make me unhappy but when I go home and babysit my neighbours little girl it cheers me up and makes me REALLY happy.

even though im only 14 I will provide for the baby for iits whole life no matter what.

I no this all sounds completly stupid and im very young so I could be throwing my life away but it could also make it better.

tell me what you all think . x

Answer #1

Stupid plan - Smart plan: education, ring, date, marriage, get financial stable, then baby - life is choices, make GOOD ones !!

Answer #2

I understand that you love your boyfriend but beleive me you are not prepared to have a baby.. wait till your older..way older..to atleast be LEAGAL ADULT.. bc when you have a kid its all your responsability..all urs not your moms or your dads..so you dont even imagine whats all the responsibilies that come along wit it. baby sittig has nothing on the real thing..I baby sit and I have a 3 year old brother and ever since he was little I’ve had to help my ma with him since I am the oldest.. you have to go thru endless nights of NON sleep FEEDING 24/7, stressing, listening to crying…trying to figure out whats wrong when the babyies cryin and sometimes u’ll never find out what is wrong with the bebe!

its a whole level of responsibility..dont get me wrong its a beautiful thing.. every child is..but its a lot to handle.

Answer #3

Seriously nothing pisses me off more than seeing post like this. I HATE that young girls are taking something as special and beautiful has having a child and turning into a joke. You CAN NOT support a child at 14. You are NOT in love. Ya’ll aren’t even dating. Does he even want a child? Your body is not even done developing at 14 years old! I can’t even say anymore, this topic pisses me off too much.

Answer #4

Honestly if you want to it is hard work just really think about it before you act.Having a baby at 14 is hard,you won;t be able to hang out with your friends maybe not even finish high school and get a good job that pays well and you u can’t drive so you can’t go anywhere.Your parents would be so upset.

but I can’’t stop you if you want a baby then do w.e you want

Answer #5

‘as above’

Answer #6

wow your dumb

Answer #7

How would you provide for the baby? Would you be able to give the baby everything it needs (with your own money)? Would you be able to provide a place to live for your child (without your parents help)? Would you like to give up everything so that you can sit at home and change poopy diapers? Who would watch your child while you’re in school? You would have to pay for a babysitter. Who would get up in the middle of the night with your baby and then help you to get to school on time? Who would take your baby to the doctor if he/she got sick (you can’t even drive)?

What you want to do is completely selfish. This isn’t about your life it’s about the life of the child you want to bring into the world. Do you really think it would be fair to ask your parents to take care of this child (because lets face reality, you’re 14, how would you be able to support a baby?)? Do you think it would be fair to your parents to say “hey mom & dad, I’m pregnant so now my baby will live here and you have to help me out”? How would that be supporting your baby? As long as you live with your parents, you won’t be supporting your child, your parents will.

As for your best friend…why in the world would you even think that having a baby will make him stick around? Most guys that are that young will run the other direction when they hear a girl say she’s pregnant.

Do you understand how completely selfish you sound? I don’t mean to be harsh on you but someone needs to get some sense into you. Having a baby when you’re 14 because you want to be HAPPY is the act of a selfish child.

And as for being in REAL love? You’re only 14.

Answer #8

colethky is right.. it is kinda selfish. this boy probably doesn’t want a kid. have you ever been to a gynecologist? if so maybe you should talk it over with your doc. let him/her explain to you all of the health and medical risks of pregnancy. having a baby is a huge responsability for someone in a stable adult relationship. just imagine how difficult it would be for you. think of it this way, you’re not even old enough to vote for who will affect the country’s future hense the future of this child you want. what if the new president (God forbid) did away with government funded children’s healthcare programs? then how would you financially provide the propper care for a baby? and then if your parents have medical insurance on you, it probably doesn’t cover a pregnancy for their CHILD and if they make too much money to qualify for a government helthcare program then who’s going to pay for the maternity care for you? that is VERY expensive. … to make my point, there are a lot of cute, sweet, etc reasons to have a baby, BUT BUT BUT there are PLENTY of other things that come along with it. things honey that you could not possibly grasp at this time in your life. are you prepared to be a single mother at 15? because that is what you will be. boys your age are not interested in babies. only the thing that goes into producing them. I hope that you make the right decision. if you Love this guy like you say then you wouldn’t trick him into this and take away the best time of both of your lives. ask him I guarantee he doesn’t feel the same way!!

Answer #9

I agree with AMBLESSED!

NO you shouldn’t get pregnant. It will be a lasting consequence. You feel better with the child you babysit for two reason:

  1. You are helping someone.
  2. Your not the responsible party of that child, you get the FUN stuff. Not the burping, cleaning up puke when you are also puking from the same illness, sleepness nights for 6 months or longer, among other things there is a LONG list, then they get older and you begin worrying about the choices your young adult is making that are scary and life altering and you hope they have listened to the advise you have imparted and from the simple mistakes they have made.

There is so much you have left to learn about life and yourself and these are years that are fleeting (although they might not feel like it now). In twenty years you will look back on them with laughter and tears. Journal your thoughts and feelings they will be a way to see your growth as a human and a woman

SO DON’T GET PREGNANT! Adults have been there done that or just learned from others mistakes and yes they work out but do you really know the consequences for the choices they have made?

Answer #10

WELL I THINK YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO HAVE A BABY.AND HAVING A BABY WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND WOULDNT MAKE HIM STAY WITH YOU BECAUSE IF HE DOSNT LOVE YOU HE WOULDNT STAY WITH YOU.AND BEEING 14 IS TIME TO CHILL HAVE FUN AND PARTY WITH YOUR FRIENDS.AND THINK ABOUT YOUR PARENT HOW WOULD THAY FEEL ABOUTH YOU BEEING PREGNANT AT THE AGE OF 14.AND HAVING A BABY IS A BIG DEAL YOU SHOULD HAVE IT WITH SOMEONE YOU TRULY LOVE AND KNOW HE CAN PROVIDE YOUR BABY WHATEVER HE NEEDS.AND PLUS PROBABLY YOUR BEST FRIEND DOSNT WANT KIDS AT HIS AGE I SUPPOSE HE MUST BE 14 OR 15 AROUND THAT AGE.YOU ARE TOO YOUNG HOW WOULD YOU SUPPORT YOUR BABY.YOU NEED MONEY,

Answer #11

Your young so its not a good idea,just think about what you would have to give up and how disappointed your parents would be.But then again its your choice

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