Should I call my mom back?

I am 32 years old and my mom tries to run every aspect of my life. If she is mad at someone she automatically makes me quit talking to them until she makes amends with them or else she makes my life misserable. Her favorite thing is “well my kids never did that”, about each of my 6 kids. We probably never did anything “like that” because she let our stepfather beat the crap out of us for years and we were always afraid. She has no friends and regularly tells me how much she hates my friends. She belittles my husband all the time. Yesterday I had enough of her negativity and hung up on her. I usually always call her back and apologize even if I’m not wrong. My mom has never once apologized to anyone that I know of because in her mind she is never wrong. I don’t want to call her back because I am so sick of all this. Am I wrong not to call her back?

Answer #1

You can give yourself a time-break/timeout - just remember, she’s the only Mom you’ll ever have and we never know when life may take a sudden turn…hope you’ll stay close and try to help !!

Answer #2

I think you did the right think, I mean there is only so much you can take of someone, right? maybe she just has to realize that she has her own life to live, and she should let you live yours. also, letting her know how you feel, might make things easier for her to see. hope I could help.

Answer #3

its how it is with my mother too. I wouldnt call back give it like a week and see if she calls you. then iguess you can call but if you do, you dont have to appoligize to her. I think she owes you an apology. you can call her you dont have to apoligize…

Answer #4

This is exactly like my Grandma. My Grandma loves to belittle other people in the Family, and shows favoritism between the Grandchildren and her own Kids. Every time my Grandma and Mom get in an argument or my Grandma keeps being a jerk, my mom will always hang up. She never apologizes either.

I don’t know what you should do, but Good Luck! (:

Answer #5

I think you should call your Mom and remind her that you love her and than just be there to listen. When you hang up the phone, do what ever you want. Your mom may just need someone to vent to. Remind her that it is hurtful of her to say negative things but try not to let it effect you.

Answer #6

your not wrong Dont call if you don’t feel like It.its up to her to apologize this time!!

Answer #7

Hi Star7. This is advice from a Motherless daughter, call her.

I lost my Mom 6 years ago. Your love for your Mother is unconditional no matter what you feel at the time of heat. Look at it this way, you can’t just ignore her for the rest of your life and you will regret if something was to happen to her. It’s a lose-lose situation. Your Mother’s love can never be replaced. Only SHE can fill that hole in your very soul. For all who still have their Mothers, please do not take her for granted. A Mother’s love is greater than the world itself. A Mother will block a bullet for their child(ren) without even thinking about it. Sometimes we’re blinded when they’re always on our case and if there were to be an award for the most annoying Mother on Earth, we believe our Mother would win it without a doubt. It’s all a miscommunication. Your Mom always want what’s best for you. It’s her job to be guide you, she is your Mother. Try to remember that parents are only humans, they make mistakes too. At the end, forget all of the drama… You love eachother.

Let me tell you something. I wish I can call my Mom. I wish I can ask the very quesiton you had just asked. You see how lucky you are now? Only if I can just pick up the phone and hear my Mom’s voice once again. I envy you… Now get out of the internet and go call her!

Take care and God bless…

Answer #8

your a grown woman able to decide this on your own. WAY TO GO!!! stand firm lilone!!!

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