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Am I taking this out of proportion?

My boyfriend of 3 and a half years is starting to change himself,and its really bothering me. It started out with getting color contacts.I was okay with that. Now hes cutitng his hair,getting all these crazy hairdos,and labeling himself as “scene” I think labels are rediculous,and hes constantly trying to act “Scene” He changedhis myspace layout by adding all kinds of “scene” things,or things that “scene” kids have. This girl in his School keeps suggesting all these “scene” things he should do wiht his hair,and shes trying to talk him into hair extensions now,too. Im just so sick of this.I know hes not cheating on me wiht the girl or whatever,But I wish she’d stop changing him.It almost seems like hes changing himself to make other people approve of him,because hes not happy with who he is. Hes not even acting the same towards me. I feel kinda left out.

.< Should I be upset? or am I just taking this out of proportion?

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Answer #1

I would be upset, But the best thing to do is tell him how you truely feel about this [in a calm mattter]. And tell him how it’s affecting you. Talk to the girl about it too.

Answer #2

I don’t know, theres kind of two sides. One being… hes young, hes going to go through a lot of changes, some physical and he’ll want to try out new things which is okay. The wrong thing about it though, is doing it for other people. If hes changing his style a bit for his own sake, I see nothing wrong with that. If you look at me 3 and a half years, and look at me now… you’d never notice me. But, I didn’t change my taste and style because others wanted me to… I changed it because I just wanted to feel something different. So, just accept it… he will go through a lot of changes you may or may not like. Everyone goes through stages like that - I’m sure you will too eventually and he may not like it. Its just part of growing up. He’s just trying to find himself, and you may not notice it, but you are too.

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