should I and is it goin to hurt

How old are you and how old is he? That makes a huge difference as to how people should respond to this one. I’m guessing young by the questions and how they are written. If that is the case, a month is not enough time to know him before hopping into the sack with him. Of course he wants real sex, he’s a teenage boy!!! :) But he will survive, trust me on this one. Your first time should be special and with someone who cherishes you and LOVES you. You shouldn’t be worried about him leaving you after or soon after, or pain or anything else. If you are both in love, the rest of the stuff is all minor anyway. The pain (if any at all), depends greatly on how stressed out you are. If you are scared and tense, yeah - it will most likely hurt. But otherwise, the relationship between a man and woman in love is incredible and there is no way to describe it. Please, Please slow down. Okay??? It’s not something you can take back and there are no do-overs for this. If he won’t respect you then it’s time to find another boyfriend. You are special and should be treated as such. You’re not a phone sex artist or a plaything. Good luck! :)