Should I leave my child?

As a mother of 2 (a 7 year old and a 5 month old) I do think it is a little too early. It isn’t a matter of trusting the person to watch them, it’s a matter of acting in an emergency. Would you rather miss out on a party and know your child is as safe as you can possibly make him or would you rather have a few hours of women time and worry the entire time about the baby and not be there if something happens? When he gets a little older then you can try to get more women time. But you’re a mommy now and that is your most important job and should come before a party. I’m not saying to not get some time to yourself ever, but at the baby’s young age he is too delicate to take that gamble. The most time I’ve spent away from my 5 month old is 2 hours and it wasn’t until a month ago for a dr appt. I am fortunate to be able to stay home with him and I tell you, he is a very happy and secure baby because he knows his mommy will be there if he needs me.

Have you thought about having a get together at your house with a few close friends? I saw someone mention that and I think that is a good idea. That’s what I did when my bday came around and the baby was 3 months old. You could have the party in one room away from the baby and then the godfather could get you in the event of needing something.

Welcome to mommyhood, it may seem tough but will be the best thing you’ve ever done!

Get a very responsible friend or family member stay with him. Call every 25 mins. to an hour!

Good luck and hope the baby is doin well

He doesnt know I went out and I was only gone for 1hour then we came back and got him and stayed in a hotel and my son came with me!

I’ve just read all the comments, I know it’s been ages since she wrote this, but I can’t believe how judgemental people are. I don’t dispute that leaving a 17 day baby must appear to be selfish, however, it’s not as if she’s going out on the lash like most other 16 - 17 year olds. she’s making a concious decision about something, she is obviously not going out on a wim!

I’m glad she went out, the needs and happiness of the mother are equally important as the needs of the baby. unhappy mum = unhappy baby. mums need a break too!

and I agree with the fact that at that age, most babies don’t really care WHO feeds / changes them etc, it’s not until 1 - 3 months that they have a real attachment with the mother, granted if the mother breastfeeds this can be earlier, because the mother is the only source of food! but other than that, it doesn’t take long for baby to realise conclusivly who you are - and then they WON’T let you out their sight! at night babies sleep most of the time, and as long as there is someone 100% responsible, a few hours will do te mum the world of good! even if it’s just to the cinema for a couple of hours…there is after all a life away from the house, and it does new mums good to remember that occasionally!

glamorous101—that’s really not true. newborns are comfortable with anyone that makes them feel secure, changes their diaper, and feeds them. so babybump, it’s perfectly ok to go out for a few hours IF you leave the baby with someone who can truly take care of him. it sounds like his godfather could (from your description). happy birthday!

17 days? Baby is young, but mom needs a break too. 4 hours isn’t much. if you trust Godfather 100% with all your soul then go ahead. Like I said, 4 hours isn’t a long time. 4 days would be different. Go have fun!!!

Personly I think it is WAY to early!! He is only a little more than 2 weeks old. But it is your desicion. If you are having a feeling that he is too young than trust your feelings. Why don’t you just have some friends come over to your house and hang out with you?

He’ll be fine! I know it might seem hard but the longer you leave it the harder it will get so if you do that one small thing you wont be as nevour the next time you want to do it :-) New borns and great but just like when there teenagers you’ll have to let them go 1 day and not be there for them 24/7 I hope this helps you kaylie xxx

glamorous101 . . Things are a lot different from when you babysit kids to having your own. Thanks Sillygirl006 helped a lot =] I did go out in the end and left him with his godfather.. even though the flat was a mess when I got back he was safe and they was both cuddled up on the sofa sleeping haha =] However I did come home early and me and a few friends decided 2 go 2 a hotel for the night and I took my son with me.. still had a great time and a drink while knowing my son was safe =] Thanks everyone for your answers =] =]

TRUST ME I BABYSIT a lot, AND I AM A GOOD BABYSITTER BUT I WOULD NEVER BABYSIT A 17 DAY OLD BABY, BECAUSE FIRST OF ALL NEW BORN BABYS ARE COMFORTABLE WITH ONLY THEIR MOTHER AND FATHER, BUT MOSTLY THEIR MOTHER, SO I THINK YOU NEED TO ENJOY YOUR BIRTHDAY WITH YOUR SON, YOU WILL PROBABLY HAVE MORE FUN ANYWAY, TO ENJOY THE LIFE YOU JUST BROUGHT INTO EARTH, AND I UNDERSTAND YOU TRUST THIS GUY, BUT NEWV BORN BABY`S HAVE NEEDS AND ONE OF THEM IS THEIR MOTHER AROUND a lot!!!PLEASE TAKE MY ADVICE!!!

it’s so natural to be afraid to leave your newborn, but it will be ok. I work at a daycare and a very irresponsible mother left her 9 day old with us for 10 hours. she never even called to check up on him. everything was fine tho. the baby was quite fine being away from his mommy…and everything worked out. she was only twenty minutes away too.

go ahead and go out for a few hours. if you trust the guy, then everything will be fine. and if worst comes to worst, he’ll call you and you’ll have to come home early. that’s not so bad.

Well, when I had my daughter I let her spend the night at her aunt and uncles house. And it bothered me so much that I was at their house at 3 am trying to get her back. I have always said that I would be scared that something would happen and the baby wouldn’t know who they were with. And I think that its a mothers job to keep her children safe. I am always scared that they are going to wake up and I am not going to be there and they will be scared.

17 day son. oh my. I just reread. I could understand why that would be hard. hopefully the uncle is trustworthy enough and responsible. I don’t think 17 days enough for a mom to have spent quality time with the child. Maybe you should stay if your gut feeling is telling you to. Always trust your gut.

no your babys dad will use it against you!

trust your instinks

just keep in touch and keep your phone on and he will be fine

good on yooh girl