Is it bad to be scared to have sex?

Hi Miss Bekka, I have 4 daughters. The oldest-26, youngest-18. I told all of my girls to think about the future. I know we all feel like we have a forever relationship. When you do marry, whoever that my be, can you deal the emotional pain of knowing how many people he has slept with, and vice verse? I’ll be straight up with you and let you know, IT IS NOT LIKE THE MOVIES! Its something to learn together over time. There is a reason why your heart is speaking to you. I think your dad understands men and boys, and it scares him to death. In my experience, anger always covers up fear. Especially in men. Please value and take care of yourself, your the only one who can. I’ll be praying for you. Rechelle :)

well i will give you some advice..i lost my virginity at 16..we both thought we were ready..and he broke up with me a few months later…and i regretted it ever since…so i hope you make this decision without him trying to fill your head with anything…and i hope that you make the right decision and overall..i really hope everyhting works out good..regardless if you have sex or not..your happiness really matters..there are other things in life than sex that is way better and can make u way happier..just think everything through..your emotions if you two were to break up..because being someone who has personally experienced it..i wish i would have just waited…

It’s fine to be scared and sorry for saying this but what the heck is wrong with your dad calling her a whore? What father does that?

my dad actually has really bad anger issues, like REALLY bad. Little things set him off, and he says what he thinks, no matter what. He calls her a whore and a self centerd b*h, so i have been spending the last like 10 years trying not to do anything to upset him, hence the being scared

I understand what you’re feeling, I was actually once kind of in the same posistion your sister was in, I’ll telll you the full story if you’re intrested through funmail if you msg me. But just know that the desision is yours. Don’t let the issue of what happpened to your sister, the anger of your dad nor the presusasion of your bf talk you in or out of sex. It’s all up to you. Your virginity isn’t something you can take back - keep that in mind. You’re the one in control of your body.

tht is not anger issues that is a Mental health Problem >< Honestly GO FOR IT bekka but remember safe pracites of sex you should be fine.

what he doesnt know wont kill him. :)

It’s rather common, and I have to say it’s something very hard to avoid. Eventually you will do it, whether it’s now or later. If you’re so concerned, I wouldn’t do it yet. You have to feel comfortable. You still have time so don’t pressure yourself when you don’t have to. About your dad, he needs to learn that this is your affair…And that you’re growing up whether he likes it or not. You won’t be whore for having $ex, it’s completely natural. Good luck.

if you scared don’t do it yet..wait till your less afraid and positive that he’s the one you want to make love too

Yess I think a lot of people are scared, I always thought I would end up like that movie..Runaway Bride lol

Have sex when U are ready, if your not and your scared well dont, if your scared cuz of ur father ask someone u care bout to be with you and talk to him about IDK….i had not bad or ill will towards my parents and im pretty open so yeah idk ><

I think you should wait. You are 13 years old by your profile, you both are very young to be doing something so emotional and committed. If you are feeling scared of it, and anxious of it, family reasons or other wise, it probably is something you should wait on. I think you will be happier if you resist in the end. You may think you want it now but 10 years from now you will be glad you didn’t lose your virginity at 13. No offense, but it’s very unlikely you will be with your current boyfriend forever. Enjoy your relationship without the intensity of sex, it will not even be enjoyable if you are feeling anxious and scared. You need to feel at peace with it, and I recommend feeling completely in love before you even think about it. Sex is a big deal, and something you have your WHOLE LIFE to do. Don’t rush into it, you might regret it. But whatever you do BE SMART!!! Don’t trust condoms 100%…get on birth control. You do not want to get pregnant, especially this young. BE SMART!!!!! I’ll say it again, you don’t want your life to be ruined at such a young age. Avoid sex, it’s not even enjoyable unless you feel completely comfortable and IN LOVE with the person you’re with. It isn’t something you need to do to feel cool or pretty or accepted. You are a beautiful person WITHOUT having sex. You can be proud of keeping your virginity…don’t feel pressured. It’s not worth it.

we are 16 :P not 13 :P