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Do you think he's just trying to be nice?

So I’ve been talking to the same guy as a friend for a while now and we haven’t talked in a while because the class lately has had a heavy workload. And I said to him “hey i feel like we haven’t talked in a while, wanna go to lunch tomorrow?” and he was like “um im kinda busy, id love to but i cant” and i said “okay” and then he said “but maybe we’ll hang out over the weekend” and i said okay and left it at that. I cant tell if he’s just saying that to be nice. and i really was just asking him to lunch as friends because we haven’t talked or hung out in a really long time. i mean I’m not at all expecting him to actually call me but i don’t want him to say things he doesn’t mean. need help!! thanks again for actually caring. see ya! -brits1389

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Answer #1

He didn’t give you the coolest and most mature response in the world and it does kind of sound like he was brushing you off a bit. But, not a big deal, maybe he was just taken back by it. So I’d lay off a bit and maybe next week, ask again like, ‘Hey, I’m heading to the bagel shop, come keep me company.” Then talk to him as a friend, not as a girl who is into him, know what I mean? If he gives you a brush off again, I’d stop asking him and ask another guy you think is cute. If a guy is really into a girl, he’d jump at the offer to spend time with her. So maybe give him another chance to see if he’ll come around, but don’t put a lot of stock or place any bets on him.

Good job on asking him out though–so many around here, “how do I ask him out?” You just do it! And you did it! You’re my ultra cool new hero of the day!

Answer #2

No worries hun, ok if he has your number now leave it to him, you made your move in asking him to lunch, he backed out so now its up to him to make the move and ask you to hang out. Becos if you call him and ask him again you’ll seem to needy, so just leave it for now, and leave it up to him and see if he actually meant wat he said and wants to hang out, otherwise if he doesnt call and you dont see him this weekend he was just being nice but really saying he doesnt wanna hang out with you. Let me know if he calls k!!

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