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Rumor about rape?

Theres a rumor going round my boyfriend raped sum gurls but theres no proof. I got raped and da pst so he nos how I feel.tha last tyme me and him had sex it hrt and he sounded agravatd when I told him bt nt mad. Me and him broke up a week ago after 6 mnths.I told his friend I don’t know if da rumor wus true bc iwsnt there.he told em I said it was and that he raped me when I told him wrng.im uncomfortable round mst guys bt nt him.I trst him a lot.nows he mad @ me 4 sumtin I said rng. We wna get bck 2gther bt hes pisd @ me.what shuld I du?

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Answer #1

If it is true that he raped you, then you are dealing with a violent, abusive and dangerous person. No one has the right to betray your trust like that and so I would strongly recommend that you turn him down. From what I understand, this is someone who cannot control his sexual appetite and you need someone who has self-control and respect for your body and your words. No means no!

In summary, I’m suggesting that you turn him down and look for someone you can trust more. Confiding in someone (and trusting someone) who is capable of rape is a big mistake and you need to consider your own safety.

Answer #2

You can’t believe a rumor but you can take it as warning to be careful until you know what really happened. I would definitely stay away from his friend because he is lying about what you said and is already involving you in the rumor (even though it might not be true, he might have even started it!) and getting you in trouble with your ex. Don’t talk to him anymore, he isn’t a good friend to you or your ex-boyfriend.

Tell your ex about what happened and be honest. There is no reason for him to be angry with you. You haven’t done anything wrong. You just have to talk things through and find out why this rumor is going around and what your ex has to say about it. You can only judge him on what you know of him and if he was always good to you then there is no reason to doubt him now.

On the other hand, If you are unsure about his innocence then don’t spend time with him until things have cleared up. You could question the girls he supposedly raped to find out what they have to say. Time should clear things up and talking always helps.

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