Religion vs Love

*Please do not issue about the title and my story: It’s a real experience I had this week and it most certain does not mock God

it’s a very delicate thing to ask.. my girlfriend is probably one of the most faithful Christian I know and im really glad she is Christian because im also a Christian I know when people say “You must believe in God or your soul would be judge,” I really pay attention and honestly respect them. But frequently, I believe I have been cursed..(please dont mock) my girlfriend and her family is a leading Christian and she is devoted.. She goes to night sactuary almost five times every week and always have to be home before 7.. I don’t know what to do.. she says she has changed herself to me, but she’s not willing to give up a little more time from the Christian ceremony.. I attend different church with different rules and time and I always wait for her to finish, but she is unable to come out after .. so there’s only a time for say “good night” and that’s it…

For all heavily Religious people it’s very praiseworthy, but recently I think of it as a curse .. and if this some sort of way for God to test me.. it’s more of a weekly exam for me … I can’t defile God’s will, but I can’t help not to get frustrated..

My girlfriend said she is trying to make her time with me between her studies and church time.. and she even gave up hanging around with her friends just to see me..

I know im being selfish and not understanding, but I always make time between my studies, church, and work.. and I too gave up my friends’ trust and time to be with her… I even disregarded my family’s resentful thought about our relationship.. I also thought that I was giving her a change in her life..

But if my change does more harm than good. and if her life is ruined by what I want with her and destroys her moral image.. im willing to hold my love for her and let her go.. ++ Im not trying to buy any biased statement.. this is my thought and how I felt

Even thinking about this just pains me .. and I love her so much.. I wish only for her safety and health. However, I just can’t help feeling that she doesn’t see me better. I know nothing can’t replace God. I know she was raised in a Christian environment. I know she loves God… But What About Me??? It feels like I don’t have a choice but to wait. And I wait for 4 hours doing nothing but only hopes that she will at least call me and hear her voice. But she only texts me a good night without any reply… It hurts.. and it hurts even more to think it again..but it also hurts her that I can’t understand what she’s going through. But at a time like this.. what am I suppose to think… because of her activities and her service… I only meet her once and maybe twice if lucky.. and we only can hang out 2 hours top..

I feel like screaming.. I feel like crying.. I feel like scratching myself to feel better..but what I want the most is for her to comfort me right now ..

Please.. give me advice what to do..

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Answer #1

Whatever happened to the xtian saying: Everything with a “To” be wrong???

Example: To drink alcohol is fine but “Too” much a sin!

So when does this rule apply when “Too” much time is spend at church?

There should always be a balance in one’s life and this we should learn from an early stage in life!

Too much play and too little work have badly after effects and the same go for the other way around!

Her priority lies with her religion right now and there is nothing you could do about it, do not even try, and rather try to accept it, because if you draw her away from it now, she would most definitely blame the after effects on you later in her life!

(On the positive side, think of it, you didn’t loose her to another guy ;-) at least not one who is still alive )

Answer #2

You are suffering the same pains as all young lovers since time began…The “need” to be together vs. the obligations of school, church, family and friends… Instead of “waiting for 4 hours”…do something constructive or interesting for that time…it will take your mind off of your dilemma. Your church offers you more free time, than her’s does…there is nothing she can do about that. Her texting rather than calling is also probably controlled by someone other herself…she’s thinking about you, but is unable to call.

Another thing you might try is some “self talk” reminding yourself that this is how it is…acceptance of life on life’s terms is a key to serenity.

Answer #3

I havent ever had a problem like this .. I recomentd that you you just go to church w/ her bud :) im not saying become like hardcore billy grahm save the world kinda guy.. but just show her/ her parents that your willing to sacrifice time w/ her for her faith

also talk to her about it w/o being rude.. dont lose her lol thats never good

ummm yea I dunno what else to tell her.. you might wanna show her your post b/c it was very convinceing to me :) haha goodluck

oh and remind her that you love her tons and want to see her more but you relize that her faith is more important “ in her eyes atleast” and she’ll probably understand and you guys can work something out

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