Can A Relationship Work Without Sexual Chemistry?

I think it depends on the people ^^ like, my boyfriend would probably die without sex D: I don’t think we would work out if we didn’t have sex, but that’s just me, I dunno!!! But my boyfriend gets really…annoying if we don’t have sex..and he starts blackmailing me >_> like he’ll refuse to shower D: I’ll go to his house and he’ll be playing Xbox and his hair will be like, all greasy and stuff :( nasty…

I suppose it can. But when you first met someone, it’s physical appearances which makes you want to date that person, get to know them and aftewards there are lots and lots “ hot and heavy breathing” activities in the bedrooms.. I’m guessing here, but old people do not have as much sex as younger folks so maybe the blog’s statement is true…You may not need sexual chemsitry as you get older as being with someone minus sex could be enough.

haha!! he wont shower if you dont have sex?!!? thats funny, no offense(:

Yes definetly!! It’s not like 13 year olds are supposed to run around having sex!!! I’ve only kissed on person!!

Yes definetly!! It’s not like 13 year olds are supposed to run around having sex!!! I’ve only kissed on person!!

Well, that was just an example ^_^ he does other things too. Like he’ll give me the silent treatment lol, or like we’ll be talking on MSN and he’ll just spam me with like, the same message OVER AND OVER AND OVER…he knows exactly what makes me REAAAAALLY MAD

haha thats really cute

haha, that sucks, looks like your his puupet(;

lol :P

Oh wow! I didn’t know it could be that demanding! lol

In adulthood, not really. Trust me, I had a ton of problems with my sex life initially because I grew up in a house where sex was a curse word. As a result, I knew nothing about it and had a hard time establishing that “chemistry. It eventually came in floods, but the point is that sex is a huge part of a long lasting relationship. I don’t think it’s a big deal before adulthood, but after, it’s one of those must haves. Luckily, sexual chemistry is a lot more easily create than emotional chemistry. Dirty movie anyone? ;)

You need sexual chemistry. That doesn’t by any means mean you need to have sex.

You can have sexual chemistry with LOTS of people….tho, you might not last 10 minutes in a relationship.

Sexual chemistry can come on with time….it can also be nutured…..especially if the person in question has traits, personality and charactors that you really do like.

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No offense, but I think that sounds kinda pathetic on his behalf. I mean, he couldn’t live without sex? Your relationship wouldn’t workout without sex? That doesn’t really sound like love to me.

I don’t think sex should be a really big part of a relationship. I mean, if your married, ok, i get how it could be frustrating not to have sexual chemistry, but most couples could work that out.. it’s called role play.

well being close, you have to be close, but you don’t have to have sex to keep a good relationship, if you don’t love someone enough to not just want them sexually, then why be with them?

I guess not in the first 2 months-ish of a relationship, but after that, there needs to be some form of sex in order for the relationship to grow. The majority of relationships without sex will fail within a year.

but what about when you are in a relationship in high school??

This is an individual thing.. some people are more sxual than others.. some don’t want to waste the energy having sx.. it really depends on the person. I have seen with friends that it’s possible for a relationship to be based on something besides sx. Look at how relationships start.. supposedly the best ones start as great friends over a period of time and because the 2 are friends first they have a bond that is hard to break.. that bond was not formed with sx.. A soulmate is with or without sx.. I believe that watching movies and reading romance novels gives the impression that there has to be awesome multi org asmic action packed sx to have a successful relationship. I just don’t agree… I think just like with anything it takes all sorts to make the world.

Gee, thank you. That was sort of unecessary. We do love each other, and I’m sorry if I’ve given you the impression that all we do is have sex. You can’t say that we aren’t in love because of one thing I said about our relationship. My boyfriend isn’t at all pathetic, thanks. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all because ‘no offense’ doesn’t make it any less offensive.

This totally makes sense. I dated almost 10 different people for the past 2 and half years. Had sexual intercourse with 6 of them. I even went out and kissed a girl. But none of these attempts went to the next level (serious and/or long term relationship). Its probably because I’ve been thinking that sexual chemistry is the core of a relationship. It’s been awhile since the last time I went out because I’m afraid to do another attempt thinking it will just be another failure. Now at least I know it’s not always the case. I think I am now ready to explore again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! ♥

I can relate to this in a way. My family is not that conservative. However, I was never close to my parents. Reason why I never got the chance to talk about serious matters like “sex” with them. This might be the problem why I’m in struggle finding a serious relationship right now. But I think most parents won’t really talk about it in front of their children. I wonder why when they know their children can learn it from others the bad way? Which might actually lead to something worse and which leads me to my next question here on fudadvice. lol

Hey thank you for the answer. I appreciate it. (^^,)

Thank you for the all the answers! It helped me big time! I did notice something though. Most people who answered this question were girls. Where are the guys?

i agree…. leave him alone ilovemykitty94 :)