PLEASE HELP

Dear Nicole, For what it’s worth to you, this happens all the time. If it helps, you are no way alone with this type of problem. As you work through it what is happening, is that you are maturing and growing emotionally. I really believe this is why we run in to these types of situation. Now what to do?? First of all what you are struggling with, is something that is totally out of your control. You can’t control your ex, you can’t control your girlfriend. When you realize this I believe it will help you within this situation and future similar situations that will come up. I know that it would be great to wave a magic wand and have everything go your way, but that is not how it happens. I will give you something to try and see if it helps you. Think for a moment about what your girlfriend and ex may be going through. (Put yourself in their shoes..not yours) Your girfriend may be trying not to like this boy because of you, but you know how strong an emotional connection can be….so she may really be struggling. Your ex could be very confused and when he sees your girlfriend his emotions tell him to ask her out. They are both trying to consider you but they either don’t really care about what you think, or they can’t help themselves. Either way you have no control over their actions and the only thing you have left is to give both of them the benefit of the doubt. If you can truly get this feeling inside you WITHOUT denial it will give peace within yourself. Once you fully understand their actions are out of your control, let your girlfriend and ex know there are no hard feelings anymore. Now for you!! You have no idea how you could have been holding yourself back from a different, way more fulfilling relationship with a different boy. Guys really watch as to what girls go out with who and all of that stuff. By you being single and letting go of who YOU think would be a good boyfriend for you (your ex) now you’re free and single…..enjoy it, use this time to love yourself, learn about who you are, and learn how to lookout for yourself. This is a great lesson that you have learned about “friends” try not and get into the frame of mind that friends will be there for you no matter what etc…. You take care of number one (you)!! You are growing up….You have so many wonderful relationships out there for you to enjoy!! Let yourself go, have fun!! Think outside the box in terms of relationships boyfriend and/or friends.I hope this helps!! Familycoach

Hun>if he really liked you, he would still be with you, and his heart would be with only you!! Why dont you wait until he can decide who he wants to be with. I wouldnt want to be with someone who has feelings for another girl! Why dont you let him ask YOU out. If he doesnt, then i wouldnt bother with him anymore.

dear nicole, well honestly i think he’s playing cat and mouse… he see’s what he does to you and your friend’s relationship and it amuses him…don’t let a guy come b/t you and your girl “bloods thicker then boys.” but just incase i’m wrong lets look at it from another point of view… he could just be confused so i think you should play really really hard to get and make sure ur the lone he wants and make it VERY CLEAR (u know how guys r lol!) to him that you would keep coming back to him and that this is his last chance b/c next time it’s o/v for good! well I hope it works out for u and your friend and the guy…well I g2g bye. -T.L.I.F.E (True Love Is For Ever!)