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Well, me and my girlfriend have been going out on and off for about 3 years. This time it seems a lot more serious and I have much stronger feelings for her. So far I have only given her little "peck" kisses, you know and I want to take it a step further. Only, I have no idea what I'm doing. I mean, I always see people in movies and on TV kiss but I still have no idea what to do. Could someone please tell me how to do this? I mean, what do I do with my lips, hands, etc. I'm not neccesarily talking about using my tounge but I would also like to know how to do that. I just don't want to come on too strong. So how do you go about open mouth kissing?
Well my friend here are a few pointers for "french kissing" as written by Mike Hardcastle:
Set the scene. Make sure that the mood and time are right.
Relax! Take a deep breath and let go of any tension in your neck and shoulders.
Put your arms around the person you want to kiss.
Start off with a normal kiss, not too firm, not too aggressive. Closing your eyes is optional.
In mid kiss, gently open your mouth and softly nudge the other persons mouth open using your tongue.
Again, not too aggressively, move your tongue inside the other persons mouth and playfully touch their tongue.
Read the other persons body language, if they seem tense or start to pull away, stop what you are doing.
If they open their mouth more or otherwise indicate they like the kiss, keep on doing what you have been only with a little more passion.
As the kissing gets going saliva build up can be a problem, don't forget to swallow.
Make sure you keep your tongues relaxed but your lips tight (saliva again), you don't want the kiss to turn messy.
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Well thanks for your advice, lol I just wish I had a chance to read it before right now. I was with her and some friends at a friends house and as our friends mom was taking us home we kinda started staring at each other and I knew it was the right moment so I just kinda went for it. The only thing was, I didn't have time to reach into my pocket and grab a breath mint. And I had that certain taste in my mouth, like after your mouth has been dry for a while, which mine always is when I'm around her because I smile so much. But I feel like I may have come across as a bad kisser to her. I mean it was my first time, but not hers. I feel like I didn't open my mouth wide enough and I had bad breath. Should I say something to her, like as an apology? Or just forget about it and try to do bettter next time? I dunno, does it seem like I'm over-reacting? I dont know, I just feel like I did something wrong. Maybe not, considering it happened twice more after that kiss. Sorry, I guess I'm just nervous, and worrying too much. I think I just solved my own problem lol. Thanks again for the advice.
Well thanks for your advice, lol I just wish I had a chance to read it before right now. I was with her and some friends at a friends house and as our friends mom was taking us home we kinda started staring at each other and I knew it was the right moment so I just kinda went for it. The only thing was, I didn't have time to reach into my pocket and grab a breath mint. And I had that certain taste in my mouth, like after your mouth has been dry for a while, which mine always is when I'm around her because I smile so much. But I feel like I may have come across as a bad kisser to her. I mean it was my first time, but not hers. I feel like I didn't open my mouth wide enough and I had bad breath. Should I say something to her, like as an apology? Or just forget about it and try to do bettter next time? I dunno, does it seem like I'm over-reacting? I dont know, I just feel like I did something wrong. Maybe not, considering it happened twice more after that kiss. Sorry, I guess I'm just nervous, and worrying too much. I think I just solved my own problem lol. Thanks again for the advice.
Ok well you should just tell her that you were nervous and such. That would clear everything up. =) Oh wow I did not look at when this question was asked...4 years woops sorry!
