omg I feel so bad as a big sister

I feel as if you, your sister, and mother just need to have a talk. Talk about any, and every subject, but dont over do it, because that might lead to a fight, or a bigger problem. All I can say is just stay intact with your story, and if your sister trys to deny it, come up with proof, or just say sorry. A good apology is a good feeling after saying sorry. At least you got it off your chest, and if your sister does do drugs & skips school, tell her why its bad, force the consequences down her throat if you have to. I can relate to your sister, and why she might do the drugs, but just tell her that she might not be here tommorow if she continues ruining her body.

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I’m a little confused? how is telling your mother about your sister’s sexual orientation going to stop her from acting out? being bi has nothing to do with skipping school or taking drugs? I’m not entirely sure why you would out your sister for no good reason… How is that supposed to be helping her? I suggest you actually be honest and start addressing the real problem here, instead of trying to push it off on her sexuality which has nothing to do with anything

the girl she “goes out” with is the one dragging her to do this kinds of stuff. I needed to tell someone because I cant do it my self, its not like in telling on her im just trying to help her out.

damn.

You may “not” have hit the target on the head as far as “what” the problem or solution is… but you “did” recognize that there “was” a problem that could hurt your sister and you spoke out about it.

All the technical decisions on how to help your sister out are not on your shoulders. It is the responsibiltiy of the adults in your (and her) life to take care of that part.

Out of love, you spoke up to get help for your sister who was hurting. Whether you had all the right answers or the wrong ones…I don’t think that love from you could have been expressed any finer than what you did.

Some people in life are Bi, some are gay, and some are straight … or whatever. The reasons for each person are a personal choice. Her seeing a councelor will simply help her to justify her feelings… not condem them in any way because of prejudice factors and inbred beliefs of other people. In the end, that will be most assuredly “her” decision alone to make. But if she is really young, then “sex at all” might be a critical issue that could hurt her in her life.

Your mother’s reaction sounds most stable. She has gone out immediately and sought some professional help for your sister. The professional help will simply talk to her and help her to ensure that what she is doing is the best thing for herself and that she is making wise and productive decisions for her own life. They may also offer her some alternative things to do with her life that are much better than ruining it for herself. People really do care.

Your sis needed help and you were there for her. What greater love can there be? How would the rest of the world be if they followed your example and spoke out of love to help a friend or relative in need? With so many people in this world falling by the wayside each and every day, the amount of lives and productivity that could have been spared would be almost endless if they had had a true friend like you.

Everyone has, and is entitled to, their own opinions. You might have to take a lot of slack from some people that don’t agree with your actions. But on the other hand, your one gesture to love your sister may very well have saved her life ! You simply don’t need to hit me over the head with a stick to see that one.

Thank you for being an inspiration to us all !

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