Can it be normal to feel this way about a new friend?

So recently I had made this new friend at school. We actually first met in September on a field trip and we sorta lost touch for a while and only saw eachother in the hallways at school. Finally she comes up and asks me what I’m doing one weekend and she gave me her phone number. We talked on the phone for a little bit. Before school was out for Christmas break we were planning for her to come over but then she sprained her ankle and couldn’t come. We started talking again and are maybe planning on getting together this week but I’m kinda worried. I like this girl a lot and I do want to be her friend but I sort of feel like maybe I won’t be good enough for her? I mean I’m totally myself on the phone with her but I guess I feel this way because she’s like 2 years older than me. She’s supposed to be a senior in high school but got held back. I guess I’m sort of intimidated by how much older she is than me and the fact how she’s already had so much more experience with things than me if that makes any sense. I basically feel like maybe I don’t live up to that. And sometimes I worry about other things like for example what if she’s one of those backstabbing friends? I worry about that because she once told she really didn’t like this one person then when I’m hanging out with that person she comes up and pretends that he’s one of her best friends and to be honest it’s kind of a warning sign for me because I hate it when people say they don’t like a particular person then when they see that person they’re all nice like nothing’s wrong you know what I mean? I just have these worries. I don’t know what to do to stop thinking like this. Is this normal? What can I do to relax?

Answer #1

If she talks to you on the phone, and wants to meet you, I don’t think you have to worry about her liking you. Age doesn’t really matter as long as you both get along well. The only thing that would make the age difference matter is if you felt uncomfortable around her. If she actually “knows” more than you, then I bet she’d be happy to share what she knows. I’m sure there are things that you know all about that she may be clueless with. Give the friendship time to flourish and get to know her a little better before thinking that she is a backstabber. I know there are a few people that I do not like or get along with wonderfully but, for whatever reason, I have to be nice and try to get along with them. It’s always nice to have a friend to complain to about those people as well. Don’t over-analyze things, just go with the flow and see how things work out. :)

Answer #2

Okay, so first thing NEVER and this includes brothers, sisters, friends and even parents make you feel like you are small or not as good as them. Once you do that you are such an easy target for people. I mean, okay so this girl may be older than you and sure, she may have experienced alot of things that you haven’t but at the end of the day, what does it prove? nothing. It doesn’t mean to say she’s wise or mature or that she’s learnt anything. Infact, you sound more mature than her because you’re actually worried about her backstabbing. My advice to you would be this: Stop thinking that she is in any way better than you and also, do not base your time around her. Make sure that you always hang around with different people and don’t forget other friends. Talk to her, be nice, have a laugh, whatever but personally, i would keep her at a distance until you figure her out.

Answer #3

This feeling is okay, lost of people get even me. the only way to get around it is that you have take it slow, build your friendship slowy.

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