need some help with my girlfriend

hokay so. Me and this girl have been dating for about 8 weeks, not once have we made out and it is starting to destroy us. We’re both 15 btw. I once pressured her a little bit about it which I regret, I didn’t do anything drastic about it, she said she wanted to then but that she just couldn’t for some reason which turned out to be bs as now she’s saying she doesn’t want to. I recently spent a couple of nights at her place and over that course of time the situation arose that I made a move on her and started feeling her boobs which she was fine with at first. She even unhooked her bra so I could go in underneath. A while into that I asked her if she was uncomfortable with it and she said “a little bit” so I stopped. Then after that she said she doesn’t want to do that kind of stuff so I was pretty bummed at first but after that I didn’t care so much. I’m really just happy to have her because I think I am in love with her and I do VERY much care about her. She won’t even make out with me though, and after the night when I made a move on her I made another one where I stroked her face then held her cheek in my palm looked into her eyes and said ,”you’re so special to me baby, I love you” then I moved in for more than a kiss but then she just kissed me for a bit but we didn’t make out. We’ve both done it before just not with eachother, and now she’s saying I’m pressuring her too much, she says she just doesn’t want to do it which I didn’t know cause last time she said she wanted to… Now I think she’s going to break up with me because she’s doing the whole “you pressured me” thing again and saying stuff like how much hurt can I go through. Now that I know she’s so touchy about it I’m scared to bring it up at all and I don’t know where our relationship is going… help!!

Answer #1

well maybe she’s not ready 2 do it again. maybe just start ova by talking 2 her, and just givin her little kisses like on the cheek and head. just be patient wit her

Answer #2

Why dont you just start out with little kisses here & there? You’ve only been dating for 2 mos. she obviously isnt ready, or doesnt feel comfortable with you yet. It sounds like your focusing so much on the physical side rather than getting to know her on a social level. Let her go at her own pace, otherwise you are going to lose her. Relationships should be about communcating, not worrying about why she doesnt want to make out with you. For some, those things take time!

Answer #3

thanks for the answer sam, sounds like a good idea. I’m hoping she won’t break up with me so I have a chance to talk to her though : /

-kris

Answer #4

you guys need to communicate better.. are you POSITIVE she has done it before? well if she has, she prob thinks shes bad, and it doesnt matter what you say, she most likely will NOT admit that to you..

try to talk to her, and tell her your ready to take that next step when she is, and tell her your sorry for pushing it… even tho I dont think you did anything wrong, its best to just let her think shes right and give her what she wants.. good luck..

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