My girlfriend wants nothing to do with my parents

Ok, this goes very deep. My girlfriend has really not liked my parents in the past but started warming up to them. About a year into our relationship my girlfriend has said comments to me about my mother making some snide remarks that I didn’t see or hear.

I did one time and I thought I told my mother that it’s not nice and didn’t appreciate that she said it. My mother never apologized to my girlfriend over the comment which I didn’t think was that bad. It was about when I was married before. Scenario “ Christmas time” My girlfriend and I had Christmas at my house where she lived which was where I lived prior with my ex wife. We sat up a Christmas tree and my mother said that’s not where I had it with my ex-wife.” That stated the down hill slide ever since. My girlfriend started hating my mother because of that statement and every thing else she was doing. Even though I didn’t think so. I thought that she was being unjust in feeling that way.

Well my girlfriend started to relax a little but every once in while she stated that she didn’t like my mother. My girlfriend has been married before twice and she stated to me in conversations that she didn’t along with her ex’s mothers either. Well on evening we went to my parent’s house and went to the county fair. I was talking to my mother at a booth and my girlfriend went to another one two booths down. She asked me to come over and see what they had. I told her I will in a minute because I was about to get so free food. That sparked off the ordeal. She stormed off and walked away leaving everybody wondering where she went. Well I found her and she told me why was I spending time with my parents and not with her. I told her that I haven’t seen them in months.

Well we went to dinner and everyone was talking about work. Somehow hot headedness came up and about promotions and how bosses look over the people that have that. I did agree with it because I was having a problem at work with a co-worker and indicated that sometimes you have to take in the you know what. My girlfriend said she would have said something to her boss and took care if it herself. Even though, I did talk to my boss. My dad went to say that it the boss’s job to stop it and not her. Well we left and then about an hour after we got to my parents house. She came out of the room and told me that she wanted to leave I asked her why and she told me that she cant be around people that put her down. I asked her what she was talking about she told me that I should have said I agreed with her which, I didn’t. We were engaged at that time. In front of my parents she through the ring down and told me she couldn’t and didn’t want to be with me. I told my parents to leave the room. They did and she started yelling and cursing me out. My parents came in and she started going off on them. Cursing them and telling them that they didn’t love me as much as she loved me. My mom said I love him in a different way. Well I took her home because I didn’t want her around them and them around her at that time.

Well I did kick her out about a week later but she would not stop saying disrespectful towards them, but we got back together because we did love each other and I thought that we could work it out. Well now I asked her and my mom to talk on the phone. I thought everything would go good. Well crap hit the fan. My girlfriend told me that my mom said that she was sorry that I loved her and so forth. I asked my mom if she said that she said that she did but it because of what she was saying, which my girlfriend denies.

Now things have totally gone way too far. She wants nothing to do with my family. She says that she doesn’t want to take away the time I spend with them but every time I say I will go see them she puts a guilt trip on me and makes me feel bad that I want to she them. And now my family does even want anything to do with her. I do love this woman for all the right reasons and I love my parents for all the right reasons. But I’m stuck in a hard way here. She doesn’t want to go visit them over holidays, or events and even now my best friends wedding because they might be there and I’m the best man. She still goes off about them to me. Now she’s even going against my friends and hates them. She totally fights me and makes me feel bad when I leave to go see them just for even an hour or two. Do love her but I don’t know how to stop the madness.

Please help.