Nana Died

just go she would want you to go you may not be too happy but just do it

I went thru the same thing my dad died in december of 04 on a friday I was very upset my friends called me and asked if I wanted to go to the movies like we did every sat I said no but my mom and family told me I shud go so I did and it took my mind off of it but as soon as I walked thru the door to my house I broke down…if you go you will just be getting your mind off of it but the pain will never go away so I think you go esp.if your family is telling you too..goodluck sweetie..and im sorry for your lost..

Sorry for your loss I lost my nana 2 she died peacefully in hospital from breast cancer missing her loads :’(

your family are right,but you dont want to really have fun,but your nana would want you to,and it will help you take your mind off things because you can stay where you are atm,and feel bad and let evrything catch up on you,and go to rock bottom and blame yourself,or you can go out and have abit of fun,and get all the gossip and be happy for your friends 16th

sorry to hear about your nana R.I.P god bless her soul xx

It’s up to you. If you really think you wouldn’tfeel right about celebrating, then don’t go. I’m sure your friend will respect that.

On the other hand, if you had a warm, loving relationship with your nan, maybe you could try to see things ‘through her eyes’: wouldn’t she have wanted you to enjoy yourself, even if she was gone? Not to take your mind off her death, but to help you come to grips with it, and remember her as someone who loved you.

A very similar thing happened to me about one and a half years ago… My gran had just had a cardiac arrest and went into hospital. We went to see her and all knew she probably wouldn’t make it. I was really upset and couldn’t face going to my friend’s 15tth birthday/hallowwen party. Like you, my family told me to go, and even though I really wasn’t at all up to it, I went anyway. I had a good time, and to be honest, it did put my mind off it a little. Whenever I thought about it though and saw everyone around me having fun and laughng, it hurt a little. When my dad picked me up to go home, he told me that my gran had died while I was at the party. I say you should go and try to enjoy yourself as the next few days/weeks are going to be hard. Hope everything goes ok!

another thought:

There is a beautiful sonnett by Christina Rossetti, about death and remembering.

It ends: ‘Better by far you should forget and smile            Than that you should remember and be sad.’

You can find the whole text at https://tspace.library.utoronto.ca/html/1807/4350/poem1757.html