Should I condone my son's behavior?

They just meant that he hides it from the cops, like if he was out and had it on him, he wouldn’t go flashing it around, he would keep it in his pocket. We hide ares in an unopened diet coke can. The top unscrews so you can put stuff it it, but the lid isn’t opened. We have water in a seperate part of the can too so when you pick it up and shake it, it sounds like coke. Anyways, I wouldn’t worry about it. He’s old enough to make choices on his own, and it’s just weed, it’s not like cocaine or meth. If it was that, I’d say hell no, he shouldn’t be doing that. But since it’s just pot. Let him

Dear dylansoul12, Of course you know this is all wrong or you wouldn’t have written your question. Since you say you know about POT then you know the dangers it posses to one’s health. It has more cancer causing agents then cigarettes, it can alter the hormones creating permanent damage…this is just to name 2. If he finds it calms him down then he has a medical problem that needs to be addressed. You asked does it sound normal “NO” it does not. Sue…good luck

I have a friend who’s son smokes pot, and she lets him for the same reason. She smoked pot when she was younger. Her kid is also the same, he was just about the top of his class, has a steady job, and has a group of friends. If he seems to be getting good grades, and since he openly admists to smoking pot, its maybe more reasonable to come to a compromise when dealing with curfew.

Just a suggestion.

Get him off it. Drugs mess kids up and it doesn’t matter why they are using it will mess things up for them later on. Maybe he has ADD and needs meds. get him a perscription that will calm him and help him focus. not drugs, you are his parents you sholdn’t allow that. I mean if he was stealing money from you or beating people up because it helped him focus youwouldn’t let him do it this shouldn’t be diffrent.

i meant our’s* not ares. sorry it’s late lol

You said he hides it from the cops…why would he be around cops? You are only around cops if you are doing something wrong. You said he did nothing wrong. Something doesn’t ring true here.

Yes, I’ll try that next. Thanks!

I don’t like pot personally, but I do tolerate our Son smoking it. He has severe IBS and IBD and it’s the ONLY thing that seems to help. MY Mother’s argument is that it is a “gateway” drug. I consider myself to be a good Mother and keep an open nose, eye and ear whenever he has friends over, comes home late, etc. I also periodically do room searches as well as car searches. I have NEVER found anything that indicates that he does any other drugs. After numerous surgeries and too many hospitalizations to count, we gave up on the meds and turned a blind eye. He had missed so much school due to being so sick, that we had to withdraw him and homeschool. He is now about to graduate with a 3.8 GPA and a 30 on his ACT. I’m not condoning doing anything illegal, and if you knew me, you would NEVER suspect that I do know of his pot smoking and turn a blind eye, but it’s heartbreaking to see your child in pain and not able to socialize due to an illness. If marijuana helps him and it does, then ok. He’s a good kid and stays out of trouble. What more can you ask for as a parent in this day and age?