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Should I condone my son's behavior?

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When my son was in junior high he always had trouble with grades. He also recieved occasional referals, for minor things like tardys. He was never a very bad kid, he just didnt concentrate. He only had a small group of friends and he barely talked at all.

In high school he started getting a lot more friends. Kids came over our house all the time, and they usually smelled like cigarette smoke and alch/marijuana. I grew up in the 70's so I detected the smell at once. He didnt really dress differently, he always favored hippy looking attire, but basically the same crap.

He started coming home really late after being out all night, his eyes were red and he began coughing a lot. I even found cigarette packages and one time a joint in his pockets. I even found a bowl under his bed when he was at school. I started getting calls from his attendance office about him skipping school

The weird thing is, his grades got better. He got accepted into honors classes and he was getting straight A's and B's. The marijuana seemed to have improved him. He would come home at 9 or later every night, obviously high, but his teachers still commented on how he did all his homework and ac'ed all his tests.

Me and his father confronted him about it and he openly admitted he smoked marijuana. He claimed it "calmed him down" and "helped him pay attention". Me and my husband love his new social life, and we dont mind him coming home late. The only thing that bothers me is him skipping class, but he is getting a average 3.57 gpa, a 4.1 weighted I think. much better than I got in high school. He writes for a newspaper and he plays an instrument, he just is open about smoking pot. he said he hides it from police, and "isn't a moron".

I just dont know what to do, should I condone his behavior? He is getting good grades and is extremely polite to me and his father. He is polite to people at school and doesn't get into trouble excluding the skipping classes. Does this sound normal? because it goes against everything I have heard. Please respond!

Wouldn't I be a hypocrit to not condone his behavior when I tried marijuana when I was a kid> I NEED HELP!