How can I get my prejudiced Dad to accept us?

Um.. I have several politically active gay family members & a number of friends in the gay community up here in Vermont. I only say that because you might think I am anti-gay for what I am about to say.

While you live under his roof you need to respect his beliefs for one reason and one reason only… as a family member you are the most likely candidate to help open his mind to new levels of understanding. That may require abstinence until you are able to move out. Nothing says you cannot be friends with your current gf, but abstinence is not an unreasonable request from a parent.

I know. I spent a lot of time butting heads with my parents (i am hetero) over sexual activity. Then, after seeing what some of my friends’ parents went through as a result of very serious sex related issues (STD’s & unwanted pregnancies (yeah, i know, you’re lesbian)) I realized that as a minor my actions were ultimately my parents responsibilities.

Once I left home I was free to pursue my own lifestyle and it is a very open one. Anyhow, sounds like your dad is a dick and your mom is worse. Just remember, until you are legally an adult he is legally obligated to do what is in his best judgement with regards to your upbringing.

There is a chance, however small, that he will respect you and your decisions later in life if you attempt to show respect for him now.

That being said, the first thing outta your mouth when you are moving out of his house should be ‘homosexuality is not a choice.’ Many people refuse to accept this, but medical evidence suggests that it is true in many cases. Google it. Some people are born gay. Be proud, but understand that homosexuals are on the cutting ege of civil rights and you don’t convert the old guard by dismissing their concerns outright.

Regards.

P.S. try to ‘do well’ in convential situations like school even though school is so often a monocultural drag on creativity. It will go a long way to proving that you are willing to try to succeed under difficult circumstances and will help in your arguement that the people in your life should make a similar effort. Good luck.

In this situation you need to find out where he heard the truth from! it doesnt sound like he is going to accept this anytime soon so keeping it a secret will be the best option, you just gotta make sure he doesnt find out. Unless you get him to meet her and maybe he will come to accept it.

OMG I’m sorry thats not a true dad thats horrible well go wit wat you feel I am here if you have any thing you would like to talk about i will not judge or make you feel any different then any other person K

so wat if ur gay . alot of ppl are . one of my friend friends is a lesbiean and its ok . its part of wat makes u u . u need to talk to ur dad and explain to him that u like this girl alot . tell him that he doesnt even have 2 like her tell him all he has to do is be supported about the whole thing and let u see ur gf. tell him that would u rather have him be gay and all that or get bet up and end up dead by ur mother?

                               Good luck reply!