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My Mom will not help my cousin out

My mother is an idiot! My cousin is 19 and just had a baby boy about a month ago. She has a job interview today and I was supposed to go and get her and take her and watch her baby. My mother said I couldnt b/c and I quote, “I am not (name)’s taxi, she has 2 dads, a mom, and a baby daddy she can call! (name) Owes me money and has not brought it up and has not paid me back!” What is the deal?! My mom borrows money from relatives all the f-ing time! I dont know if she pays them back or not! As a result of my mother’s horrific behavior, will this result in our relatives and family hating my immediate family until the end of time? what do yall think? am I over reacting??

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Answer #1

I think theres more issues here than just her owing money.

One one hand - it may be that your cousin who just had the baby is not the most responsible person and your mother has possibly unbeknownst to you, bailed her out quite a few times. Therefor she feels that your cousin needs to grow up and accept the responsibilities of the situation she has placed herself in.

On another …Perhaps she does not want you around this cousin as much as she does not want you to be taken advantage of. I hate to say it - but my niece made me a great aunt at 26… She’s 17. I’m not one to pass judgement however she is NOT responsible and does NOT take care of her kid. She leaves my great nephew with whomever she can so that she can do as she pleases. Perhaps this is your moms fear, and shes working to protect your best interest before you become a free 24/7 babysitting and taxi service.

Answer #2

You have a right to be upset. Your mother is acting on selfishness.

I never lend money. If I can’t afford to part with it, then I don’t give it out. Your mother has to learn to get over her bitterness and accept that people don’t always pay you back. Deal with it.

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