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Ok sometimes my mom has her boyfriend over and I really hate him im only 13 and I screm and yell at here and she takes my laptop away and every thing I really hate my mom sometimes and cant seem to talk her out of any thing she is still married and I really dont like it my mom and dad are going to get a speration cause of this dude I really dont like him and they go in to a room and lock the door and I hear things I know what gose on and I yell and kick the door and every thing but nothing seems to work I dont like it and I tell her that and she says what am I not to have a life I said you are 44 and you have me what do you think but she dont care!!!(srry I dont add periods) and I sometimes I want to run away but she says if I do she will call the cops on me and I all ways get sick to my stomch when he is here and she dont care like right now hes here in bed and he not a spouse to cause my mom work in the moring (and srry I dont have good spelling) but I really hate him what am I aspouse to do???please help!!?!?!?!

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Answer #1

if my child kicked and screamed at my bedroom door, they’d loose more than their laptop I can tell you!

your mum and dad have seperated, deal with it! they were probably unhappy before guy came along, this guy is not the problem! your parents simply didn’t get on anymore, it happends!

yes, your mum should try and be a little more discreet, but with your attitude, she probably figures it won’t make any difference…

your mum is TRYING to use taking your laptop as punishment, and punsihment is supposed to act as a deterant…

have you even taken two minutes to try to talk to this guy? he’s probably terrfied of you!

you need to RELAX…honestly! I know it’s probably grossing you out knowing what they’re doing…but your mum has needs and if she has been in a relationship for 15+ years, she’s probably just having a bit of fun. I personally think that your mum should be a bit more tactful, your parents have split and this is a difficult time, FOR ALL OF YOU, not just YOU!

just calm it down, stop over reacting, how can you expect your mum to treat you like a mature girl if you don’t act like one? my 4 year old doesn’t even shout and scream like that! becuase he’s learnt ‘t doesn’t get him any attention’ hegets my attention by talking to me…

but relax, think of this from your mums perspective, then she will think of it from yours. I would start by saying sorry for recting the way you have, but you were having problems with loosing your dad and some guy trying to replace him, and takin her away. your mum would respoind to that…as long as you don’t loose it again!

and please use spell check…or at least full stops in occasionally…

Answer #2

Believe it or not your mother is entitled to her own life. Her life does not have to revolve around you. Why isnt she allowed her own happiness? Why should she be lonely just because you want her to be? What happens when you’re older and you have your own life? Is she supposed to put her life on hold till you decide she’s done taking care of you? You have not said one thing he does that is harmful to you. It is understandable that you want your parents together. However, that simply does not seem like it is going to happen. You can be angry at him all you want and you can blame him for ruining your parents marriage, but odds are they would have seperated whether he was in the picture or not. Your parents decided they wanted to seperate. How is acting childish going to help anything? Yelling and screaming is not going to change things… Like the person above me said, deal with it… Part of growing up is learning to deal with stuff you dont like.

Answer #3

you should give him a chance ,why do you hate him ,your mam is still your mam ,it seems like you are jealous ,and that is why you don’t like him ,if you try and get on with him you will be happier ,and you will get on better with your mam as well ,you are just making your self and every one else unhappy ,think about it ,just give it a try ,be nice and see how things go .

Answer #4

Your mother has her own life and no matter how much you annoy her, don’t like it, or pitch fits, she still has that right. Theres no reason you shouldn’t like him if he doesnt hit her or hit you. And good god, you really need to work on those run on sentences, I almost died.

Answer #5

pretty much you just have to deal with it. For the last ten years I have had to deal with a stupid jack a$$ of an alcoholic for a step dad and I hate him so much but I just had to deal with him. if you don’t try to fight with them it makes it easier because you aren’t getting in trouble for being disrespectful or yelling at them. when you turn 18 you’ll be an adult so you can tell them to f**k off and move out. that’s what I did. :)

Answer #6

Where is your DAD? if the “boyfriend” isnt supposed to be there call your DAD

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