My life is going down the drain

I do understand what you’re saying, and I’m so sorry things are so difficult for you right now. It is very hard not to have self-pity, but I promise you (I know from experience) it does not help you at all. You ask why these other girls don’t have problems to the extent of yours, but think about it: your problems will dissolve with time, you will have the chance to get a job and go to college and make a life for yourself- but THEIR problems, being mean and treating others poorly, those will stick with them a lot longer unless they are forced to change. You say you only have one friend. Think about those that have none! My take on it is that if you’ve got one good friend in your life that you can count on, you’re doing alright. And yes, looks do matter to a lot of people, but let me tell you something: I never thought I was beautiful. I thought I was fat, ugly, had horrible skin- the works. I did try to take care of myself and eat right, and eventually I found someone that thought I was beautiful the way I was. Looks may matter to a lot of people, but honestly, are those kind of people worth worrying about? I don’t think so. And if you can truly trust that you are a good person, and that you do your best to treat others with kindess and compassion, you’ve got a lot more going for you than you think. And, as for your family, I know how that feels. My family and I have always been very distant, but that’s just an unfortunate thing in my life: I won’t let it ruin everything for me, so neither should you. Lastly, those who are kind and considerate may not always be rewarded, that’s the part about being genuinely nice that can get tough. You don’t do it so people will give you recognition for it, it’s just who you are, and no- it’s not fair, but that’s how it is. In the end, though, you will find that being kind and loving has helped you and given you more in life in the long run than those who had it easy and weren’t quite so caring to others. Good luck, and if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to funmail me.

Thanks so much

Don’t worry lil lady, things WILL get better. Life is funny that way. I felt like you when I was a freshman in highschool. My senior year I finally got a part-time job at a clothing store and made sure i bought me “something” every paycheck. It didnt matter if it was just a T-shirt. It didnt have to be name-brand. Just by having something different to put on made me feel more confident. Bottom line is… I stopped paying attention to those around me and concentrated on what I could do for myself. People look at you like you look at yourself. If you feel like you’re the “ish” even if you don’t look it, your confidence will build-up. Then your body language will show your confidence. Pretty soon YOU’LL be the one “everyone loves to hate”. :)

Trust me, if you haven’t accepted christ and put your love in him, that’s why things are it is now. You just have to keep praying and believing that things will get better and be as nice as possible to your family. If you find a quarter or some money on the ground, and you see who dropped it, give it back, but if you don’t see them give it to your mom. Even though you haven’t met your birth father, that doesn’t mean you don’t have one. Your father is God.