How can I get my girlfriend to stop flirting?

My girlfriend and I have been going out for a little over 3 months and she flirts with other guys im a jealous kinda of person I know this…but it bothers me and I have told her this but shes yet to stop…I know we are only in high school and “dont know what love is” (which is sh*T) but I do love her and I dont like it when she flirts with other guys…jube she had a friend from a different come and spend the week at her house…he kissed her and yea I told her that I didnt care if he came at first thinking she would make the right choice and not let him come but anyway…and I have trust issues and I try to trust her like I did before that happend…anyway last night some friend of hers and I went to her house to watch a movie and I went to the bathroom when I came back she was like strokeing another guys head that she knew liked her…I didnt relaly like that then she was like hitting him and putting her hand over his mouth and he licked her…im very angry at theis ponit but didnt want to beat the living hell out of as punk a$$ at her house so I didnt say anything or do anything…but anyway…why would she do that ?? I talked to her about it later that night and she told me “I wasnt flirting” I think she was was she not?? I love her to death but I cant deal with that im going to end up hurting someone… Some one just please help me

Answer #1

In you case maybe she craves attention, or maybe she is a real real real real real nice person, I kinda go through the samething everytime time my girl gose in the store I see her talking too somebody and when she comes out the smile on her face is big as hell, I ask what is that about she sayes I smile when im nervous I know its bullsh!t but if she cant respect you tell her too step, you still young its other fish in the sea

Answer #2

awww. have a serious conversation with her and let her know that your serious and you want yher full cooperation. tell her to stop flirting and if she claims shes not flirting tell to stop doing what shes doing to hurt you. tell her u dont feel comtorble when she acts like that towards other guys and for her to stop. if she does it repeatedly after you asked her to stop, then im sorry to tell you, but shes just not that into you…or she just cant help it.

Answer #3

it’s not a matter of trust if she cared about ur feelings at all she would not be flirting with other guys thats a form of cheating as far as im concerned, unless its part of her job to flirt I don’t think so. If you talk to her and she still continues dump her, you deserve better then that

Answer #4

the reason u need to hook up fast is to let her know that she didnt phase u n that u r stronger than that

Answer #5

How can you love someone when you have trusting issues with them… that’s like my parents saying i love you but can’t trust me..then where is the love at? maybe under the couch or it got flushed down the toilet… listen, if i knew my man loved me i would respect him all the way like to the point if i knew dudes before you or in class i would just talk in general but no touching or love talk.. you feel me? I mean why the hell she’s touching other dudes.. if she’s doing that now imagine later… if i were you i would leave her..because she’s causing you too much drama..and as for you don’t get into relationships until you solve your trusting issues & remember the mistakes you did in the past so when you might the one you love you won’t repeat it.. and by the way you really want to get her attention, then avoid her for a while and don’t call her & then see if she calls..if she does then she has something for you if not..then avoid her you don’t need this..

Answer #6

Jealousy is one thing, but many of you sound way too controlling and intimidating. I would suggest therapy for the jealousy and anger issues. Let the therapist tell you what’s reasonable and what’s not. It’s definitely not reasonable to intimidate someone by showing them your guns.

Answer #7

Btw it ain’t called jalousy,its called being sure of what we want and what we dont want.You just aren’t being blinded by love or dumb and trusting someone who clearly didn’t earn trust.Trust ain’t free,it ain’t being hardworking that shows how mature a person is,its thing like that.You either do it or don’t.

I’d punch that friend of hers,seriously you have to right to be selective and drive your part of the boat,which I think you do perfectly,maybe too much,tell her it’s either you with nice goals in life or her and her friends fu/“% around while YOU get a nice girlfriend who is serious.Tell her she can be that person,tell her you never thought shed do little dumb things like this,tell her.

Answer #8

dude this is the same thing that is happing to me and me and my girlfriend have gone out for 4 mounths and she said she wouldent do it agen but she still hugs and talks to other guys on the phone that are her x-boyfriends I told her to stop and she got pissed at me and says I dont trust her much I think the only reason she says that is couse I have showed her my glock .40and walter p.22 and she hangs with guys that say love you to her AND SHE SAYS IT BACK??ima boght to snap but I dont want to lose her couse I really do love her and she has stoped doing somethings but I don’t know what to do.

Answer #9

well if she dosent stop then give her a taste of her own meds and YOU go around and start flirting with other girls…it happened to me once, (what does she say when u ask her) and start directing alot of your attention to other girls…shell realize what shes doing and hopefully stop but if not then she obviously has a defect and you need to break up with her FIRST… just be like ( in ur own words) look i dont like where our so-called relationship is going and just dump her and hook up again ASAP

Answer #10

LISTEN. SHE MIGHT DO THAT. YOU HAVE TO TRY AND FIGURE OUT WHY SHE DOES IT. DO NOT ACCUSE OF DOING SOMETHING SHE WILL JUST GET PISSED OFF. HAVE A TALK AND ASK POLITLY TO STOP. IF SHE DOESN’T AND IT BOTHERS YOU THAT MUCH. AND SHE DOESN’T QUIT IT WON’T WORK OUT. IF SHE IS NOT WILLING TO CHANGE SHE IS NOT IN LOVE. I KNOW THIS CUZ I DID THE SAME AS HER… ALL THE TIME. I FOUND THAT SPECIAL GUY AND I MADE IT WORK BECAUSE I KNEW I LOVED HIM AND DIDN’T WANT TO LOSE HIM.

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