My First Crush- Should I Keep It A Secret!?!?!?!?

Okay yes I know, it’s only my first crush. I have thought other boys were cute, funny e.t.c but this is the first time I have a fully flegged CRUSH. I am in year 7, and have a close group of nine friends who I met at the start of the year. Now, I suddenly realised I like this one boy in my class. At first I didn’t really understand my weird feelings, but a couple of my friends were saying things like oh, so do you like anyone (they just happened to be quite close with his best friend btw) I said no, and asked them back, and they ended up talkng about how I would obviously be the first they would tell and how much they trust me and everything. I felt really guilty and it just pured out of me that obviously tey were the same for me. I felt GUILTYYY. Now I realise I really like this boy, and I would love to talk about it with someone, but now I can’t tell my friends about it because they will hate me for promising them I liked nobody!

The other problem with this is, I knew two of the girls from primary school, but the rest I’ve just met. I love them to bits and everything but they are really close to eachother and I’m sure when I start talking to one of them more than all the rest and investigation will start. Also I was never the type to like boys (as you can possibly tell) and earlier I really enphisised the fact that I like no-one and probably won’t for ages. A lot of my firends are close with his friends as I said and I don’t want to risk it… Help!!?!?!? Should I tell a friend? What if one of them likes this person too, then my crush is CRUSHED, because I would never let it come between our friendship! HELP ME! (BTW not comfortable with discussing stuff like this with family or anything so if I want some advice/ a shoulder to cry on/ someone to talk to, I think they are my only hope!)

Answer #1

All 9 of them? They basically make up all the girls in my class- and our class hasn’t really had much experience in things like this, the amount of giggling that would go on if we were to wash our hands at the same time in the same sink after art!

Answer #2

Secrets between friends become resentment later on.

Tell your friends - if they ask why you didn’t say it before, just tell them you weren’t really sure. You can deal with all the other little issues after wards.

You’re making this far more complicated than it needs to be.

Answer #3

i think you should tell because you never know if he really likes you. and if your showing signs that you like him he’ll just be confuse and if you tell him you’ll feel so much better if he likes you great but if he doesn’t then at least you had the courage to tell and you’ll have the courage to forget as well

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