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Recently, real recently, my sister has met a new man, agreed to date him and is already going to move in with him with her 3 kids. This man has money and she never has. We have always been very close. I do not like this man because I was there the night she met him and he is a complete as. He's crude, ignorant and he says what he is thinking no matter what. Like the other day my sisters daughter was holding a puppy and when she put the puppy down the new b/f saiys, "oh jessi, those are some pretty hairy tittes you have!" I wanted to puke! You just don't say some things out loud that you are thinking. I might see a guy walking down the street with a nice butt but I'm not going to yell it. This guy brags about his money, his cars, his home and all his talents. He makes sure to let everyone know he has certain talents and money. I cannot stand him! My sister brought him to my house the other day and he walked in, sat down and stared around my house with a very disgusted look on his face. I know I'm not the richest person but I make do with what I have and my house isn't dirty. So, whats up with this guy, and why is my sister so attached? She now talks to me like I am beneath her. I am not good enough for her high society a*s to hang out with anymore!!! She's never been this way.
I love my sister so much and I would do anything for her. She has fallen in love with his money because nobody in their right mind would fall in love with such a crude person, unless of course the person falling in love is crude also and they are just attracted to each other. But my sister is not crude at all. Crude people usually make her ill. Some of the comments he made the night we met him... OMG!!! We were at comedy night at the lounge that is inside the Ramada Inn. It's called The Rubican. He was siting at the table next to us and he was making himself known to the waitresses and everyone around him. Asking the waitresses if they wanted him to buy them a shot and looking at their butts then telling them how hot their A*ses were. Then the comedian was making a joke about his wife's "moisture products" in the bathroom. This new b/f, of course, has a comment about it. He says, very loudly, "I had a real moist one last night!" It did make my sister sick to hear that. Then he started talking about his income all loud and my sister went over to talk to him. Ya, yuck!
My brother is married to a woman that likes to "keep up with the Jones'", if you know what I mean. She comes from a better family, her beliefs are better, her house is better, her kids are better, she is better! Get off your high horse, you're just like everyone else with a stick up their a*s!!
So, I know what you mean. And yes it really sucks, my brother does not agree with her views but by the time he realized this they already had two daughters. He stays with her now because he is afraid to leave his daughters with her, you know, divorce kids normally go to the mom. When we're all together we keep our mouths shut because otherwise we won't get to see the girls. But as soon as she leaves, every comment that was ever thought of comes flying out.
Keep your opinions to yourself otherwise if they stay together then she will pull away from you. But hopefully she will come to her senses once the novelty of a new relationship wears off.
Good luck
I would never take her out of my life, but she is doing a good job of removing me for her "new money". She is the one that ignores me. I think maybe its because she knows I'm not too fond of him. But when I was married to my ex, she couldn't stand him and I overlooked that. She was even mean to him and I still talked to her and hung out with her. I talked to my neice this morning and she thinks it's all so wrong. She will be 18 in October (my neice) and her and her boyfriend of 3 years will be moving in together and possibly marriage. So, she's not going to be affected by this guys crudeness but she is worried about her brother and sister. My kids and her kids are so close. They are more like friends than cousins. I can't stand this guy!!! I had a dream last night that he beat the sh*t out of her!! AAARRRGGGHHH!!!
omgg! this guy sounds like a complete a**hole!! the remark he made to your niece is totallyy disgusting! me being 14, im really taken back by what he said! how old is she?
I understand that you dislike him, but she is your sister and you have to be there for her, bc im sure she would be there for you in this kind of situation.. all you can do is pray for her and just talk to her.. she is a single mom with 3 kids, she prob. just feels stable bc she has money to spare.
I hope I helped!! =)
I know how she feels. I am a single mom with 4 kids. I don't care how much money a man has, I won't date him if he acts that way. I do support her. I love her. I just have a really bad feeling that he is going to use her for a piece of A*S and throw her away.
NOOO! dont ignore your sister. she is apart of your life..
thats the LAST thing that you should do.. you wouldnt be just taking her out of your life, but also your childrens. and thats hard losing an aunt, and cousins
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yeahh, I no what you mean!! she is making a mistake, and she will soon thats this is all a mistake.. but you have to help her realize that!!
im glad you r trying to help your sister, your an awesome person!
that really sucks. I don't mean this in an offensive way but, you said she was a single mom with three kids? does she need the money? maybee she likes not having to worry about money?
I think your sister has fallen in love with this guys money and not him. Even though this guy has money it gives him no excuse to be rude to you and other people.
She has a job and has had the same job for a couple years now. Money gets tight, yes, but not to where she's eating noodles for dinner and drinking tap water.
I hate him! Ignore your sister, and live your life... I'm sure she's going to feel lonely when you ignore her! and if she doesn't, keep ignoring her!
It will be 3 weeks tomorrow july 30th that they have known each other and 2 weeks on Saturday August 1st that they have been dating.
tell her to get a job.
