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My ex bestfriend is with my ex please help

ok ik I only 13 and I don’t know luv but listen to the whole story…My and my ex are like of and on since we met which is this year… Ok here it goes

Me and my ex actully stayed together for the longest time weve ever been together… So we were on phone 3 wayed with me my ex and my bestfriend(or so I thought)… My bestfriend was flirting with him and I was getting mad and then he was like laughing so I told him to stop and hes like hes just having fun uk my heart only belongs to you and I was like ok fine.

After 3 hours he broke up with me on the computer saying that I embrassed him infront of her an he doesnt want me to do that to him again and he said “if your going to act like your jelouse then this wont work”… not to mention this was the frist time I confronted him when other times he actully was hugging and like doing other stuff

Now 4 days later he asked my ex bestfriend( who relly isnt pretter then me because everyne says so) out and she knew how much I luved him and how I wanted my frist kiss to only be with him.. and he knew it to… so not even like 1 hour later they started kissing and making out(And FYI they didnt even tell me they were dating my other friends told me)

Now I luv him and I still flirt with him and he flirts with me but theres still that problem of the ex bestfriend in the middle… I dont want to hurt her like she hurt me because that would be wrong I just need help on what to do

please HELP ME I NEED SOME WISDOM FORM you PEOPLE

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Answer #1

Theres probably not much use talking to your friend. Im assuming shes about your age and she probably has her own deep guilty feelings about what shes done however its obvious she has just chose to ignore them and has acted all calm cool and collected abut the situation (just like we all did at 13 - Like nothing is really our fault. even if we are being the back stabbing meanie boheamie in the world!!!) im sure when she is a bit older and the dust settles and its all over with him she will realize what shes done to you and the friendship she has foolishly sacrificed but she needs to do this on her own time. SO my advise to you would be and I know it might be hard cause deep down your hurting bad and you probably want to talk to everyone about it but just pretend it doesnt hurt you pretend it doesnt bother you (not saying you should forgive your friend just ignore her) this will annoy her more then if you went off or got upset the less attention she gets the worse she will feel. and with ex boyfriend eventually he will do to her what she did you trust me!!!

Now as for him I know you care about him but its the same advice if you ignore him and just pretend your really happy with the rest of your life talk to other boys (only if it feels natural dont do it to just make him jealous or he will be able to tell) and just have fun go out with your friends and try and pretend it never happened even tho inside you probably will still feel like your dying) this will annoy him more and more importantly it will help you heal! now if you do this well and pretend you never cared about him then there is a good chance he will come running back (if he really cared about you if not then he was never worth it) for a second chance -

now this is your choice what you do but its my advice that even if he does come talking to you and wants to be your ‘friend’ again that you don’t give him the time of day but that choice is yours!

Hope I helped honey remember all these bad things that happen they hurt but they will teach you to be stronger for the other challenges life throws at you xo

Answer #2

Okay honstly.. girl a REAL frind would NEVER do that I NO!!! And if he going to do you like that then best tang is 4 you to move on!! Therez too many guys in diz world 4 you to be stuck on 1! but if you dont do that then I would try talkin 2 her and if shez real she’ll listen

Answer #3

To be quite honest it doesn’t sound like your relationship with either of them was that deep to begin with. If you stole him back then that would only make you as bad as her. What they did to you is disgusting and I, personally, would never going back there because if he can dump you for YOUR BEST FRIEND, what’s to stop him from dropping you for anyone else? And as for your friend, she doesn’t sound like a very good best friend. You seem to have a fair few other friends, so you don’t need her. Forge better friendships with people who you know you can trust through and through.

“Friendship is constant in all other things save in the office and affairs of love.”

If they can do that to you then they’re not worth it.

Never mind how much you like him, he will only hurt you again. Move. On.

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