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I’m 14 years of age and well I have a dad. I haven’t talked to him for 2 years, that’s about right. My brother used to live there for a year then he moved back here, we live in Hawai’I and my dad lives in Nevada. My mother was just talking to his ex girlfriend and she kicked him out tonight because she found out he had been cheating on her for 3 and half years! Even for the short amount of period I would have came over in the past 2 years. Turns out my dad has also been to jail, rehab, did crystal meth, pot, and coke. This I knew none of besides the pot thing! I don’t know why this upsets me so much I never cared about him nor do I now. He has also abused my brother while he was there, verbally and physcally. Should this bother me if I barely even talked to him? well I’m glad she kicked him out, I’m glad she is finally realising people like ‘him’ shouldn’t even be in her life. How could this even upset me the least bit if he was never really in my life? How can I move on? any support? -thanks

-However I would like to point out, I’m very realieved and very much apprieciated that my brother is out of there and his ex kicked my dad out of the house. His ex is a very nice lady and she never did deserve to put up with him especially when he doesn’t even have a job. That I’m more than enough thankful for.

-Also, over the past few minutes I have realised it I have been coping with this by ‘covering’ it up with ‘fake happiness’ and don’t wish to do that. Just thought I would point that out.

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Answer #1

okay, I haven’t talked to my dad in 12 years, so, I know how it is. my dad left, and well, thats another story, but no, its not wrong for you to feel that way. a month ago, my mom found out my dad was dead, and I felt HORRIBLE, I mean, he’s your dad, you should have some feelings such as family feelings towards him, I mean, atleast your not laughing about it. but no, you shouldn’t cover it up with fake happiness.

Answer #2

I think the easiest thing for yu to do is try forget about him if you find it hard some people ask about the situation you might not think it now but maybe you want questions answered so it might even mean asking your mum his ex or your dad himself. If this is the case and you dont want to speak to him direct wright him a letter ask him questions and tell him how he has made you feel and how he hasnt helped you in your path to life. Or maybe you just need to start a fresh. Some people cope differently just depends how you feel so just try and think it over. Hope this helps you.

Answer #3

I think its affecting you now, because you are really thinking about it. the pain he has put your brother, mom, yur dads ex girlfriend and you through And your mad for what he has done, the best way you can move on is to just tell yourself its okay hes out of the people I care about lives. hes not affecting anyone you love anymore if he was really that bad that, karmas a b!tch it will come back to him, but it alrdy sounds like it is. :)

dont try to cover your feelings up it never works out. thats what I try to do cause I hate my dad. fake happiness never works keep being positive, hopefully things will get better for you.

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