My boyfriend thinks I'm controlling

I was up until 4am talking with him and we we weren’t really arguing for a change we were talking. I think we got a lot resolved and he does really love me I just have trouble seeing it sometimes. I think the problem is, is that negative feelings overcome positive. The negative stuff is what we seem to remember the most and dwell on and it’s just a matter of letting things go and moving on. The reason I know he loves me is because we are still together and last night instead of talking to him I ignored him and was on the computer looking up ways to improve my relationship and find out how to deal with my own personal issues before my boyfriends. Then when he decided to come to bed at midnight I went out to the living to sleep on the couch I didn’t want to be anywhere near him because I was pretty upset. By doing that it made him come to me, he was upset that I was sleeping on the couch and I him why. Then he went back into the bedroom and 15 minutes later he gets out of bed again and then says I’m going to sleep in the girls room because I feel like I’m keeping you from your own bed. I laughed and said thats our bed and if you cared you would talk to me. So then another 15minutes later he gets out of bed again and comes and sits in the living room and we start talking. He is a stubburn guy and doesn’t want to admit he’s wrong and I think him telling me I’m controlling is because he can’t think of anything else to say, that I would be doing wrong. This way to by me leaving it up to him to come to me, then I don’t look like I’m coming to him to b*. He does care but has a strange way of showing it I think and when I asked him if he loved me, he said of course I do. He was upset with me too because I had went to a store to buy a table and had to sit and wait for 4 hrs while this guy dismantled the table for me. It took so long because we didn’t have a proper screw driver and he used plyers and screw head instead. So during that time we started talking and as usual I never forget to talk about my wonderful boyfriend and his kids. The guy I was talking to was telling me about the things I could do for fun in this town because I’m new here and don’t go out very often. I like kereoke and so he suggested I go to this bar sometime and that he goes there too. I thought that sounds like fun and then I even asked my boyfriend to come with me, it wasn’t like I was going on a date with this guy but thats the idea that was running through my boyfriends head. He doesn’t like it when I make friends with guys and well to me that would be marked as controlling but I respect his feelings and thats what I said to him it’s not about controlling one another it’s about respecting eachothers feelings and if he can’t see that I don’t know what else to do to prove to him that I’m not controlling.